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Red Pill Theorist alarmed by the prospect of women freezing their eggs, having sex in their 40s

Dirty scheming bird women!
Dirty scheming bird women!

So the manosphere blogger who calls himself The Red Pill Theorist has managed to work himself into a tizzy over a Wall Street Journal piece by a woman who — gasp! — froze some of her eggs in her 30s in order to give her more time in which to find the right guy with whom to have kids.

In her op-ed, titled “Why I Froze My Eggs (And You Should, Too),” Sarah Elizabeth Richards wrote:

Between the ages of 36 and 38, I spent nearly $50,000 to freeze 70 eggs in the hope that they would help me have a family in my mid-40s, when my natural fertility is gone. For this baby insurance, I obliterated my savings and used up the money my parents had set aside for a wedding. It was the best investment I ever made.

Egg freezing stopped the sadness that I was feeling at losing my chance to have the child I had dreamed about my entire life. It soothed my pangs of regret for frittering away my 20s with a man I didn’t want to have children with, and for wasting more years in my 30s with a man who wasn’t sure he even wanted children. It took away the punishing pressure to seek a new mate and helped me find love again at age 42.

I have a lot of reactions to this op-ed, ranging from “damn that’s a lot of money” to “that’s kind of a sad way to look at your past relationships” to “congratulations to you, I guess, but I don’t think this is really a solution to the work-life dilemma faced by most working would-be-moms.” (See here and here for discussions of this latter issue that are a lot more informed than my gut reaction.)

The Red Pill Theorist had, well, a different reaction, worrying that egg freezing could become a “grrlpower-enabling” technology, much like the birth control pill before it, and predicting that evil Democrats will soon demand that it be covered by Medicaid.

His real worry? That egg freezing will allow women to have sex with a variety of men into their 30s and even — gasp! — their 40s without “settling down” with the hardworking betas who’ve been waiting patiently on the sidelines for a chance to score a little nookie with the ladies before these ladies get completely old and ugly.

If women begin freezing their eggs en-masse at thirty, and embark upon fifteen more years of debauchery, watch out.  The current trend of beta misery, female misery, and alpha ecstasy is only going to get worse.  Now 30-35 year olds with a lick of sense leap off the carousel with all the alacrity they can muster.  But what if they don’t have to?  They’ve got frozen eggs, and early-thirties women can be decent looking.  There’s going to be a massive increase in the supply of female sexuality in the dating market.  We all saw how well that worked out for women in the sixties.

The Red Pill Theorist imagines that somehow these gals will manage to stick those poor, pitiful, endlessly used and abused beta schlubs with the bill:

In the future, there won’t just be divorce-rape.  There will be pre-divorce rape.  Crafty college gals will extract financial resources from their beta boyfriends to freeze their eggs, and then unhaapyness will set in, and the beta will be stuck with the bill.

His grand conclusion:

Egg freezing is one more brick in the wall of total sexual marketplace deregulation. Bit by bit, the chains that once encircled the hypergamic beast are falling away.  There’s never been a better time for men with options, never been a worse time for men without them.  …  It’s the next sexual revolution, except this time, women 30-40 will get to have some ill-advised fun.

Imagine that. Women in their 30s and 40s. Having fun. The horror!

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ProPatria Truthteller
ProPatria Truthteller
9 years ago

Kittehserf, check out Democrats for Life. We support both strict regulation of abortion and strict regulation of the economy for the good of the people. Unfortunately the juggernaught of the pro-choice left movement, libertine/libertarians which control both the feminist blogosphere and the manosphere, and the conservative pro-life movement, continually marginalize us. The leader of Democrats for Life and the majority of its members are women. Reasonable men and reasonable women need to form an alliance against the abuse/violent/military/industrialist patriarchy and the abortionist/Mind Control/anti-family matriarchy. I’m probably moving on to the manosphere blogs to start preaching my message there and it will be interesting for you all to follow their reaction. Any recommendations on who to start with?

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
9 years ago

LOL “libertines”. Anyone using that word who’s not talking about the band needs to go find a time machine to take them back to some time before the 1960s.

pecunium
9 years ago

Argenti: You summoned me, I came.

I saw the comment, after I had written. Being a bit of a food historian, as well as being interested in lots of things, I’d seen the stuff about silphium as an abortifaciient. And I believed it.

Then I was studying food in Rome, and the disparities in how it was described started to show up. The efforts made by gourmands to obtain the last bits of it are what tipped me over to the, “even if it was that perfect” the food demand was greater.

It’s also a bit of a logic problem. How many women were looking to abort, at any given time, versus how muh people who could afford to have pies made from hummingbirds tongues, would do to obtain something which was supposed to have the best qualities of onions, and garlic, and none of the defects (gas, odor, affect on the breath).

In a world of conspicuous consumption, I’m betting on consumption.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
9 years ago

@ David

Paraphrasing is fine. Thanks!

ellex24
ellex24
9 years ago

Why didn’t I go to bed? Why did I take one more look?

Pecunium, I actually know the answers to many of the questions on your pop quiz. And I’m not Catholic. I’m not even Christian. I have very little interest in it (in large part because I find the basic concept of religion and spiritual faith to be incomprehensible).

I know the answers because so many of the Catholics and various Christians I’ve met didn’t have the first fucking clue about the history and tenets of their own religions, so I had to go learn about them for myself.

ProPatria Truthteller
ProPatria Truthteller
9 years ago

Pecunium, very interesting post. I am not able to answer all of these questions tonight; I will try to get back to you more extensively later. I will just say that the argument for the morality of abortion based on just war theory is incredibly weak. Relying on other humans, even the mother, to make those decisions, leads to the devaluation of life, which is likely to lead to more war and violence in the long run. I have a physical disability; according to your argument, it might be better for me not to have lived at all. It is reasonable for the state and the Church to protect the interests of people who cannot yet be represented because they are too small.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
9 years ago

Actually I’d prefer if you didn’t even mention it was a regular commenter. You know the more behaviorally challenged of them will just go track down the comment if you do.

Argenti Aertheri
9 years ago

Pecunium — oh I’ll bet on food consumption too, point of my more recent comment was I would be surprised in exactly zero ways if it induced menstruation (if it is like old carrot, I believe this is only in the absence of pregnancy hormones, but am not sure, in any case, I’ve only see wild carrot used as a sort of morning after pill)

And morning after pill is not abortion come one mom! (Yes, we had that discussion, yes she does think that). Also, damned pecunium, I can only answer maybe half of those and we’ve discussed this before!

Also, g’night internet. Last call for email replies pecunium, tangential to one of those convos, my other cactus is blooming again, two buds. Was not expecting that.

ProPatria Truthteller
ProPatria Truthteller
9 years ago

Also, I oppose capital punishment and war, and believe the Church’s teaching should be interpreted against all of them. I’m not a big fan of the idea of denying communion to people based on their beliefs, unless they are excommunicated by the highest authorities for their activism.

Yes it’s true that the aborted babies go to a better place. But it is the place of the Church to ensure that people get a chance at this life on Earth.

Argenti Aertheri
9 years ago

“abortionist/Mind Control”

Pro-choice = mind control = ability to summon Sir Pecunium. It all makes sense now! Or wait, was it that witches can summon demons?

Deoridhe
9 years ago

Ugh, Democrats for Life. Funny how the “life” always refers to a fetus, and never to a woman.

ellex24
ellex24
9 years ago

I need to go to bed…

Libertine/libertarian? Two completely different things, I don’t even know what you’re trying to say there. And they control the feminist blogosphere? Uh…no. Feminists control the feminist blogosphere. The libertarian blogosphere is elsewhere, and the libertines…I can’t even use that word without laughing.

“abortionist/Mind Control/anti-family matriarchy”…LOLWHUT? Next you’ll be claiming that the feminist movement is based out of Area 51 or something. This is real life, not “Gattaca” or “Brazil” or “Dark City”.

Argenti Aertheri
9 years ago

*bangs head on wall*

Re: abortion based on disability = should never have lived at all — so! You’d have never been born, this is obvious. I mean, you just said as much. So if you where never born, wtf do you care? It’s just as likely that your mother would’ve decided to continue the pregnancy anyways. Allowing abortion isn’t saying “you must abort if X” it’s saying “if you want to abort because of X, you can”. And see, reporting from the bipolar corner of the room, I have no intent to pass that gene on, that seems far more immoral (intentionally allowing a life that will suffer the same mental illness I do, the same suicidal predisposition, etc) than never allowing that the happen, whether that means effective birth control, or abortion. But please, go on and tell me how I have to be celibate because having sex that could result in pregnancy means I want all bipolar people to have been aborted.

Nepenthe
Nepenthe
9 years ago

My goal is to set up a kinder, gentler patriarchy, governed primarily by traditionalist women, as Andrea Dworkin (who I am informed converted to christianity shortly before her death), outlined in her work on right-wing women.

HAH! Also, Darwin renounced the satanic lie of EVILution on his deathbed and Margaret Atwood wrote an excellent manual for ordering a just society called “The Handmaid’s Tale”. And that’s real.

pecunium
9 years ago

Pro Patria Truthiness: . I will just say that the argument for the morality of abortion based on just war theory is incredibly weak.

It’s only, “very weak” if 1: you privilege the unborn over the living; and discard any questions of quality of life; i.e. privileging being born, and baptised in the living flesh over living a full and happy life, and 2: ignore all other questions I posed.

That wasn’t a bunch of single questions, it was an integrated problem of Catholic Morality.

It’s those issues which make a majorty of European and American Catholics (who are all more likely to be well versed in the broader theology of the Church) to be pro-abortion.

Here’s another pop quiz: What was the position (insofar as it was known) of Pope John Paul I on the matters of BC, and Abortion?

How would those beliefs have affected the official positions of The Church had he not died so shortly after becoming pope?

Also, I oppose capital punishment and war, and believe the Church’s teaching should be interpreted against all of them. I’m not a big fan of the idea of denying communion to people based on their beliefs, unless they are excommunicated by the highest authorities for their activism.

That’s not quite what I asked.

An officiant has to make a choice, whenever someone presents themself at the rail: “Do I think this person to be in a State of Grace?”. If the officiant is of the opinion the person at the rail isn’t, they are obliged to refuse the communion (and instead make a blessing).

So, If you were the officiant, and Kerry presented himself to you, would you think him able to be in a State of Grace?

How about Scalia?

Yes it’s true that the aborted babies go to a better place. But it is the place of the Church to ensure that people get a chance at this life on Earth.

No, it’s not. The duty of the Church is to see that those who can, are provided the means to salvation; and so be able to avoid the pains of Hell, the Perils of Purgatory, and the loss of the Presence of God.

Again, what makes you think yourself more versed in theology, and/or better directed by the Spirit than those who have dedicated their lives to this study?

Esp. when you don’t have the answers to those questions; and show so basic a misunderstanding of basic issues as the requirements for receiving the sacrament of the Eucharist (and some apparent misunderstanding of what the Anathema of Excommunication means), and the Mission/Duty of the Church is?

lowquacks
lowquacks
9 years ago

Is the “libertine” thing meant to be condemnation of sex-positive stuff? I suppose from a worldview of strict conservative Catholicism people who have sex outside of marriage with birth control, or talk about it in non-negative ways, could count as libertines?

Libertarian could be in the original sense, I guess – there is an anarchist thread to feminism, but not nearly as prominent of one as there could be – liberalism seems to dominate the discourse.

pecunium
9 years ago

Pro Patria Truthiness: . I have a physical disability; according to your argument, it might be better for me not to have lived at all. It is reasonable for the state and the Church to protect the interests of people who cannot yet be represented because they are too small.

Not according to my argument.

I haven’t made an argument. I asked a set of questions. You have inferred an argument.

But even in the context you pose as being my argument you have mistaken it. The questions I posed are about the lives of all.

A known disability isn’t, under the limited cross application of Just War grounds for aborting. So, absent all other factors, you wouldn’t have been aborted.

Does that make you feel better?

Is it reasonable for the State (and why you want to bundle them is a different question: don’t want them co-joined), to harm one person for the putative benefit of another?

At what level does that right to strip one person of all rights, in the interest of another, begin?

mildlymagnificent
9 years ago

Lots of women feel that they are better off under a patriarchy than under any new system which might take control.

Take control? Of what? Of whom? You seem to think that someone *must* be in control or take charge of ….. I’m not sure. Relationships, women, men, families ? Families have done perfectly OK over the millennia thank you very much. And thank you not at all to the priests, politicians, power-hungry of all kinds who’ve tried to interfere and “control” these private matters.

I strongly suggest that instead of “preaching” to anyone you do some reading first. Not the hard academic stuff unless you get a taste for it. Start with The Subversive Family: An Alternative History of Love and Marriage by Ferdinand Mount. If the name’s familiar it’s because he was a long time editor of The Spectator magazine – so not a raging feminist but a British conservative. Also not a professional historian or sociologist, just someone with journalist’s skill for tracking down evidence about a topic.

As for abortion, I’m one of those less fortunate, but not exceedingly rare, women whose endocrine system over-produces a hormone, relaxin, during pregnancy. So, by the time I’d finished with one miscarriage and two healthy children, I was left with a hip, pelvis, lower back “structure” where all the joints were, and still are, best described as _loose_. I was unable to bathe my second child myself because of excruciating pain, either my husband did it or a volunteer who came to the house a couple of times a week – and I’ve suffered with chronic pain ever since. What do you think our best option would have been had I got pregnant again. Life in a wheelchair for me? Additional burdens for my husband? Three children with a mother unable to move much, drugged up with pain meds, not able do much for them? A simple early weeks abortion would have been my choice and people like you should have no say in the matter.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
9 years ago

He made some snarky comment about pro-sex people framing them as the enemy earlier so I’m guessing he’s using libertine to mean likes sex.

(Can we not at least have drugs too? And indulgent meals? And fancy clothes that serve no practical purpose?)

Amnesia
Amnesia
9 years ago

Hey, ProPatria Truthteller, if these lady friends of yours like being second class citizens for whatever reason, fine, whatever, that’s their business. As for me, I like being paid fairly for the work I do, I like when people take my opinions seriously, and I dream of doing something other than becoming a perpetual baby-making machine.
Grand gesture there, by the way, defending the freedoms of women that support patriarchy. Do you plan on defending their right not to vote by abolishing the nineteenth amendment?

lowquacks
lowquacks
9 years ago

The “libertarian” is the confusing bit, really.

katz
9 years ago

My previous activity online was writing anti-racist posts on so-called white nationalist websites.

Oh. My. God.

ANOTHER white supremacist.

I think they can shut up about minority birthrates, given the rate at which they appear to be breeding.

katz
9 years ago

Also, ew, spiders in food. I will never eat again. (For reals, putting your cereal in plastic containers is a great idea. Makes it easier to pour, too.)

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