
Another in an ongoing series of posts on seminal works in the manosphere canon, as it were. At some point, I’ll make a page for these.
Like Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, F. Roger Devlin’s 2006 essay Sexual Utopia in Power (downloadable here) is a kind of Manospherian urtext, an original source of many of the terrible ideas that are now accepted as gospel wherever misogynists gather in large numbers online. Though the name of Devlin is hardly as well known as that of Farrell, many of his ideas, most notably his reworked notion of “hypergamy” — which we will get to in a minute — are omnipresent in the manosphere.
Among misogynists with intellectual pretensions, Devlin’s Sexual Utopia is considered a must-read. Originally brought to the attention of fellow manospherians by PUA pseudointellectual Roissy — now Heartiste — in 2007, the essay has received lavish praise on such familiar sites as The Spearhead (where WF Price praised Devlin’s “critiques of feminism” as “some of the best out there”) and A Voice for Men (where one post described the essay as “supremely indispensable.”) It’s listed in the sidebar of The Red Pill subreddit as “required reading.” And Norwegian MRA Eivind Berge gushed that the essay was
possibly the best article I have ever read. My blogging against feminism is almost redundant after F. Roger Devlin has put it so well.
So what exactly are all these guys falling over themselves to praise so highly? To put it bluntly, a strange and sprawling compendium of ideas that range from frankly abhorrent to merely silly, motivated by misogyny and racism. Virtually none of the essay’s many gross generalizations about women (or men) are supported by any sort of evidence.
And did I mention that it originally ran in a white nationalist journal?
Yes, “Sexual Utopia in Power” originally ran in The Occidental Quarterly, an explicitly racist journal that described its mission as protecting “the civilization and free governments that whites have created” from the rise of the evil non-white hordes. Indeed, Devlin is on the editorial advisory board of the journal, which currently features an article on its site praising Disney’s Snow White as “a White Nationalist classic.”
While the bulk of Devlin’s essay deals with gender, not race, it is framed — in the very first sentence — by his concern over what he calls the “catastrophic decline” of “white birthrates worldwide.” In other words, no one who has read his article, even if they don’t know what the Occidental Quarterly is, can possibly miss Devlin’s fundamental racism (which is spelled out even more explicitly at the end of this piece).
There is so much in Devlin’s essay that is so objectionable that it cannot fit in a single post, so today I will focus only on his reworked notion of “hypergamy.”
The term was originally a technical way of saying “marrying up” — that is, “the act or practice of marrying a spouse of higher caste or status than oneself,” as Wikipedia rather unromantically puts it.
In Devlin’s hands, the term comes to mean something entirely different:
It is sometimes said that men are polygamous and women monogamous. …
It would be more accurate to say that the female sexual instinct is hypergamous. Men may have a tendency to seek sexual variety, but women have simple tastes in the manner of Oscar Wilde: They are always satisfied with the best. By definition, only one man can be the best. These different male and female “sexual orientations” are clearly seen among the lower primates, e.g., in a baboon pack. Females compete to mate at the top, males to get to the top.
This may sound vaguely familiar to you. Brian Eno once said of the Velvet Underground’s first album that only 30,000 people may have bought copies of it, but “everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band.” Similarly, everyone who has read Devlin seems to have started a blog or YouTube channel.
Women, in fact, have a distinctive sexual utopia corresponding to their hypergamous instincts. In its purely utopian form, it has two parts: First, she mates with her incubus, the imaginary perfect man; and, second, he “commits,” or ceases mating with all other women. This is the formula of much pulp romance fiction. The fantasy is strictly utopian, partly because no perfect man exists, but partly also because even if he did, it is logically impossible for him to be the exclusive mate of all the women who desire him.
It is possible, however, to enable women to mate hypergamously, i.e., with the most sexually attractive (handsome or socially dominant) men. In the Ecclesiazusae of Aristophanes the women of Athens stage a coup d’état. They occupy the legislative assembly and barricade their husbands out. Then they proceed to enact a law by which the most attractive males of the city will be compelled to mate with each female in turn, beginning with the least attractive. That is the female sexual utopia in power.
And yes, we are rapidly moving towards the manosphere myth that virtually all women are having sex with the same tiny number of men.
Although there may be only one “alpha male” at the top of the pack at any given time, which one it is changes over time. In human terms, this means the female is fickle, infatuated with no more than one man at any given time, but not naturally loyal to a husband over the course of a lifetime.
From here, it seems, comes the widespread manosphere myth that women are inherently amoral creatures who will instantly dump whatever man they’re with whenever an alpha strolls by.
Devlin is also the apparent source of the related manosphere myth that most men live lives of quiet celibacy.
An important aspect of hypergamy is that it implies the rejection of most males.
Indeed, Devlin is so convinced by this notion that he simply hand-waves away all data to the contrary.
Survey results are occasionally announced apparently indicating male satisfaction with their “sex lives” and female unhappiness with theirs. This creates an impression that there really is “more sex” for men today than before some misguided girls misbehaved themselves forty years ago. …
It is child’s play to show, not merely that this is untrue, but that it cannot be true. … What happens when female sexual desire is liberated is not an increase in the total amount of sex available to men, but a redistribution of the existing supply. Society becomes polygamous. A situation emerges in which most men are desperate for wives, but most women are just as desperately throwing themselves at a very few exceptionally attractive men. …
Sexual liberation really means the Darwinian mating pattern of the baboon pack reappears among humans.
And …. scene!
Devlin is sometimes described as an “independent scholar,” but even aside from its misogyny and racism “Sexual Utopia in Power” is anything but scholarly. There are only a relative handful of footnotes, which don’t come close to backing up Devlin’s numerous factual claims. Most of the footnotes refer to the writings not of scholars but of conservative and far-right journalists. One links to an article on the racist hate site VDare.com; another favorably cites this article by Henry Makow, an early Men’s Rights Activist turned conspiracy theorist who literally believes that feminists are in league with an evil Satanic-Illuminati cult that rules the world.
Devlin offers precisely zero evidence to back up his claims about hypergamy — aside from a couple of surveys, whose conclusions he rejects, and several quotes from literature, including that one from Oscar Wilde. The rest is, to use the formal term for it, assdata.
Nonetheless, the manosphere has adopted Devlin’s new-and-not-improved version of “hypergamy” with enthusiasm. I won’t even bother citing examples; a Google search for “manosphere” and “hypergamy” brings up 17,700 results. Hell, there are several dozen articles about hypergamy on A Voice for Men alone. And of course I’ve written about the manosphere obsession with hypergamy many times before.
But so far essentially the only people who have picked up on this particular definition of hypergamy have been misogynists, pickup artists, MRAs and others vaguely associated with, or around, the manosphere. The only academic I know of who has ever even addressed Devlin’s peculiar thesis is libertarian economist Tyler Cowan, who wrote about it briefly, and I think accurately, on his blog several years back.
This essay is not politically correct and at times it is misogynous and yes I believe the author is evil (seriously). The main behavioral assumption is that women are fickle. So they are monogamous at points of time but not over time; Devlin then solves for the resulting equilibrium, so to speak. The birth rate falls, for one thing. The piece also claims that the modern “abolition” of marriage strengthens the attractive at the expense of the unattractive. Some of you will hate the piece. I disagree with the central conclusion, and also the motivation, but it does seem to count as a new idea.
As an actual idea, new or old, this is probably all the consideration Devlin‘s version of “hypergamy” really deserves. But as a case study in the history and sociology of bad ideas, the strange story of Devlin’s hypergamy is a bit more interesting, and I no doubt will return to it in future posts.
There is also a good deal in Devlin’s essay that’s a good deal worse than his discussion of hypergamy, and I’ll be coming back to that as well.
RE: orion
I noticed that when I started to lead women, like telling them when and where to met up, taking them gently by the arm and guiding them around it had a huge impact.
I noticed that if I did not caress them with my penis but took them, sometimes hard, they loved it too.
Women have different tastes. There’s no reason one can do these things and not be an asshole. The important thing is to actually communicate this. (And if your partner doesn’t want to communicate this, then RUN AWAY. It’s a disaster waiting to happen.)
Women react to male dominance,
No. THOSE women reacted to male dominance. (And this is taking your story at face value, not asking the women what exactly they liked.)
They react to male leadership.
You’re generalizing again. THOSE women reacted that way. THOSE women are not ALL women, just as my rapists weren’t all men. You are taking your personal experiences and universalizing them. I don’t think you’d be too pleased if I walked in claiming all men were rapists, because the men I’ve had most sexual experience with were rapists. Don’t play likewise.
However, if I am all all loving and nurturing they mistake me foe a whimp and any sexual attraction goes out of the window,
Then those women are assholes and not worth your time.
I will admitt that being an aloof asshole is the cheapest way of conquering a woman, its not a way I admire really, but if you look around you, does it not work?
No, sir. It doesn’t. My husband got into my pants specifically because he was the most caring, kind man I’d ever met. And let me tell you, it’s not a good life strategy to do things that you don’t find admirable.
The reason your way of thinking enrages me, and a lot of other people here, is that I have sisters. Friends. Hell, a mother. I don’t believe people should be assholes to them, for ANY reason. I don’t care if you can cure world hunger by being assholes to people, that doesn’t make it right. You’re universalizing your personal experiences, and acting as though WE are beholden to quietly hold your hand and explain, oh so sweetly and politely, why you’re being an asshole when you’re literally saying, “Yeah, it sucks being an asshole, but me getting laid is more important to me than my integrity.”
I don’t really expect you to get anything out of this, but from one man to another: I wouldn’t want to have a beer with you. I even manage to have sympathy for Eurosabra (ask around), but you lack the human empathy required to value a human being over your libido. And that sir, is sad. It’s very, very sad.
I am a homeless, mentally ill rape survivor, and yet, right now, I feel bounteous gratitude, because it could be worse. I could be you.
blockquote monster
File under “awkward massage experiences”.
RE: orion
Ladies and Gentlemen, I have been nothing but polite so far.
No, orion. No. Polite is not the same as respectful.
You have been polite, sure. But you have been PROFOUNDLY disrespectful. And on a mockery site, that will get you mocked. I am talking to you, because I feel it is valuable for me as a human being, to learn how people like you think, but believe me, no one else is obligated to follow my example.
@Kittehserf
No, I am not a piece of shit,
I firmly believe that the male sex drive is more active than the female one, like a constant drumming in the background.
You cannot simply ignore it or rise above it, you need to get laid.
So, its entirely in womens hands to mold mens behavior, why do they not reward the behavior they say they want?
v
Indeed.
Why should I fix myself when it’s women’s fault
That the position I default
to somehow involves women being better than the those lacking the first two letters?
IF you get over the problems in your head
You can be nice without risking not getting inside someone’s insides?
By this blindside of your sight
Is your fault, it’s your mind
So don’t tell me that the fact you’re not kind is my problem to mind
That’s silly, I’m not blind
But my rhymes are a little behind
If you’re ideological standpoint of an inherent social position to debate from
when engaging for some mating fun
Is that you should be deferential and
this isn’t working for your dick wetness
I must admit to some sense of thick headness?
No offense (Well, I guess some?)
But what I mean is this
You can’t claim that it’s a Madonna-Whore thing
In your brainspace
And then still hold others accountable for your
pain, lack of grace?
Which one is it? It’s a dark triad they viscerally respond to?
Or is it just having a personality, not thinking them nebolous monsters without depth and complexity that’ll do?
Is it THEIR FAULT that your actions don’t correlate
To a state
Where they’re not whores for having desires?
Because that’s a pretty mired opinion, a little wired
it doesn’t work. I repeat: It’s tired.
“I firmly believe that the male sex drive is more active than the female one, like a constant drumming in the background.”
Is there a metric for this? Lemme guess: you’re gonna say porn consumption.
What if the behavior that women want from you is for you to piss off and leave them alone?
Well, LBT,
my version of respectful does not include respecting your opinions if I believe them to be wrong.
I can respect you as a person without respecting some of your opinions.
I also do not quite get the mission of a mockery site.
Thats a circle jerk, right?
Well, feel free to engage in that whenever you please, but here I am, the enemy, learn how I think.
Cause that is the hallmark of any good stategist.
@Fibinachi
You are still ignoring the main question.
me dick -> get laid.
me nice -> get friendzoned
Y U no reward stuff you say you want?
And please, cut the fluff.
Why dont you?
@anadiomene122
Actually, I would accept that as a solid metric.
Now , I might be wrong, but I would.
@CassandraSays
Seems I got that nailed down, probably nothing new to learn there in that area
“I firmly believe that the male sex drive is more active than the female one, like a constant drumming in the background.
You cannot simply ignore it or rise above it, you need to get laid. ”
What a double load of bullshit.
Sonny, I don’t care how obsessed you are with sex. You are not all men, and you obviously have no idea that women are individuals with individual sex drives, tastes and desires.
Nobody, however much they WANT sex, actually NEEDS to have it. Physical needs refer to things like breathing, drinking or eating: we die if those needs are not met. We need shelter, because it is a threat to our health and life if we don’t have it. Nobody has died from lack of sex, ever.
Even if this NEEEEEEEEEEEEEED to have an orgasm (that’s all it is with you, isn’t it?) were real, there’s this thing called masturbation. That’s all you “need” to do. Since you patently don’t like women and don’t consider us human, think of all the angst you’ll save yourself and anyone unfortunate enough to meet you.
Oh, and you’re not polite. Doesn’t matter a hoot if you’re not swearing. You’re talking about women as things, as sex vending machines. I put the kindness coins in but sex didn’t come out! Waaaahhhh! I’m going to kick the machine now cos that’s all it understands!
I guess you’re just as fuckwitted about men, going by your huge generalisations about male sexuality and drive. Not that it’s much comfort, except men aren’t the ones you’re going to harass.
Y’know something? There’s also this thing called love. Ever heard of it? Ever grasped the idea of people making love rather than you going around rutting? No, probably not.
I’d say you and your kind are beneath contempt, but my contempt has a very long reach.
Stop right there, winner. Saying you need to be an asshole to a large segment of the population based on gender because boner is, in fact, being an asshole. You can play the harp in the background while you’re being a condescending ass entitled to your own facts fresh out of your ass, you’re still an asshole.
Why do these guys all seem to think that having passionate or even aggressive sex with a woman who likes it = “being a dick”? I just. don’t. get it. Most women I know like both aggressive and affectionate sex in equal measure, just at different times and for different reasons and depending on their mood and who they’re doing it with. I’d imagine most women you’d pick up in bars are going to be looking for a one night stand and be sort of squicked out if someone tries to be too “loving”, but I don’t even know if that’s entirely true for everyone — YMMV. Everyone’s mileage varies when it comes to something as personal and psychological as sex. FFS, why is this difficult for MRAs to wrap their minds around?
These are also the guys who want to go back to a “traditional family” where women don’t work (which never existed, of course) and are thus completely reliant on men for money, which basically reduces women who marry to being “gold diggers” ipso facto. If they were actually upset about women being reliant on men for money, they would *be glad* women can make their own living these days. They’d *want* women to have equal pay for equal work, so as not to be as likely to be gold dug.
I do not think orion has been involved with an actual human woman EVER. People do not work like he thinks they do.
Excuse, me, where do you get this from?
8/10s of your post are pure conjecture.
I will defend my opinions, but definitely not the voices in your head.
They are entirely, and thank God, your problem.
Where do we get what? Our opinion that you aren’t living in the same reality we are? We can read what you write, dipwad.
LBT — even office for mac is better than that! (And M$ seems to have made it intentionally shitty)
Oh, and you opinions aren’t facts, no matter how much you wish they were.
@hellkell
I have been, that is the whole problem.
As long as I believed the same things you do I was not.
I honestly, truly, cross my heart, was a true believer.
All it got me was involuntary celibacy.
My new outlook, well, things have changed.
I wish I could, but I’m afraid I can’t
It’s something I should, but just can’t quite do at hand
You see, a long time ago, (or rather, recently), someone assailed me
with a copy of Dr. Seuss and ever since that fateful night I can only respond
to statements of friendzoning and lack boning
in droning, nonsensicial rhyme
I wish I could cut the fucking fluff and just rebuff your mild bluff
but unfortunately I’m contractually bound as the local half robot half gibbering madthing
and the Seuss Book (that was maddening)
to only talk in a nattering, chattering rhyming narration.
Sorry, orion, it’s just the way my raging libido offers me sublimation
And this manifestation of bothersome fluffing and huffing and puffing
is… well… My way of communi-cutting.
—
Anyway, that done: Here’s a puzzler.
If you’re a dick you dick the chicks you wanted to dick and if you’re nice it’s not Nice when they despise you?
… Where you nice just to get in their pants? That’s not nice, that’s manipulation, dick – and it won’t help your dick stick in anything, thin or thick.
*ahem*
Breathe out, breathe in. Understand this: People are different
Okay?
Now repeat after me!
A Madonna-Whore Complex is my mind to mind
And if you don’t find, that you want to click dick with me?
Then maybe, you, oh metaphorical representation of raging carnal need
to spread my seed
Is maybe just someone I shouldn’t dick with.
Seriously, it’s not harder than that.
—
To cut the fluff, off the cuff:
You = Dick
When =/= Nice
But You also =/= Nice
when
Nice = Lies
So when Lies = Nice then You = Dick
And Dick = Bad, in this case.
So don’t. It’s your headspace.
Orion: piss off with your “involuntary celibacy.” There is no such goddamn thing.
@hellkell,
no, they are not, and I do not pretend they are,
Look at this thread and tell me who are the true believers that spread their truth as gospel?
Is it me?
Really?