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Warren Farrell is doing an Ask Me Anything on Reddit today. Some suggested questions for him.

Ask him anything!
Ask him anything!

Warren Farrell, the intellectual grandfather of the Men’s Rights movement, is doing an AMA on Reddit today at 1 PM Eastern time. UPDATE: It’s started, and it’s here.

AMA, in Reddit-speak, stands for Ask Me Anything. So I would encourage you to ask Mr. Farrell questions about anything he has said or written in the past that you find troubling, or even just confusing.

Here are some suggestions. Seriously, ask him any of these, as I’m not sure I’ll be able to be online when the whole thing goes down.

1) Mr Farrell, in your book The Myth of Male Power, you wrote that:

It is important that a woman’s “noes” be respected and that her “yeses” be respected. And it is also important when nonverbal “yeses” (tongues still touching) conflict with those verbal “noes” that the man not be put in jail for choosing the “yes” over the “no.” He might just be trying to become her fantasy.

Are you suggesting that if a woman clearly says no to sex, but does not stop kissing a man, that he is entitled to have sex with her anyway because she has given him a non-verbal “yes?” If not, what specifically do you mean? What sort of non-verbal “yes” would outweigh a clear verbal “no?” Why doesn’t her verbal no mean no?

Source: Myth of Male Power, page 315.

Screencap here: http://i.imgur.com/cwSoc.png

2) Mr. Farrell, regarding your research on incest in the 1970s, you told Penthouse magazine that:

“When I get my most glowing positive cases, 6 out of 200,” says Farrell, “the incest is part of the family’s open, sensual style of life, wherein sex is an outgrowth of warmth and affection. It is more likely that the father has good sex with his wife, and his wife is likely to know and approve — and in one or two cases to join in.”

Were you actually suggesting that there are “glowing, positive cases” of parent-child incest – that is, child sexual abuse?  How can child sexual abuse be “glowing” or “positive” for the child?

If this is not what you meant, what did you mean?

Penthouse also quotes you as saying that you were doing your research

“because millions of people who are now refraining from touching, holding, and genitally caressing their children, when that is really a part of a caring, loving expression, are repressing the sexuality of a lot of children and themselves. Maybe this needs repressing, and maybe it doesn’t.”

As I understand it, you’ve said you were misquoted and that you did not say “genitally,” and that what you actually said was “generally” or “gently.” But even with the word replaced, you are suggesting that parents are repressing their sexuality and their children’s sexuality if they don’t “caress” their children. What did you mean by this?

Sources:
Transcript of Penthouse article: http://nafcj.net/taboo1977farrell.htm

Scanned pages of original article from Penthouse: http://www.thelizlibrary.org/site-index/site-index-frame.html#soulhttp://www.thelizlibrary.org/fathers/farrell2.htm

3) Mr. Farrell, why did you choose a photograph of a nude woman’s ass for the cover of the new edition of The Myth of Male Power? Do you really think that male power is somehow negated by female sexuality?

4) Mr. Farrell, why have you chosen to associate yourself with the website A Voice for Men, a site that frequently refers to women as “cunts,” “bitches,” and “whores?” If you are not aware of this, would you disassociate yourself from the site if given clear proof of the site’s frequent misogynistic attacks on women?

If you’re looking for more ideas on questions to ask him, check out my posts on him in the archives.

These might be good to start with:

The Myth of Warren Farrell: Farrell on Rape, Part One

Warren Farrell’s notorious comments on date rape: Not any more defensible in context than out of it

What Men’s Rights guru Warren Farrell actually said about the allegedly positive aspects of incest.

MRA founding father Warren Farrell responds to questions about his incest research with evasive non-answers. And a smiley. (About his last AMA appearance.

Warren Farrell on Unemployment, Salesmanship, and Other Things That Are Like Rape, Supposedly

Also check out the excellent Farrell’s Follies series on Reddit.

And Fibinachi has a series on Farrell as well.

 

 

 

 

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Falconer
8 years ago

This should be fun.

misery
misery
8 years ago

It’s mostly about which faction outnumbers which on reddit.

carlypuch
8 years ago

Can’t even handle this guy

Cthulhu's Intern
8 years ago

Yeah, misery. That’s pretty much it. While there are a lot of MRA types on Reddit, there are also a huge amount of people who don’t like MRAs. So I’m really wondering what this is going to be like. I actually can’t predict what’s going to happen.

Fibinachi
8 years ago

Well, you can always read the AMA from last year to get you a kind of sense of how it’ll go this year.

http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/18tv7j/i_am_warren_farrell_author_of_why_men_are_the_way/

tedthefed
tedthefed
8 years ago

I think a better question for the first one would be, “If such a woman actually existed, who gets off on sending mixed messages and who desires kinky power-play stuff with men she just met but won’t explicitly ask for it, why on earth would you find such an immature and unfair person attractive? Is it never an option for a man to choose to not have sex?”

grumpycatisagirl
8 years ago

OK, gotta ask, what was “the funniest question so far” that got deleted?

grumpycatisagirl
8 years ago

LOL!

Falconer
8 years ago

It was “desmay” asking Farrell to rebut criticisms of AVFM as a hate site.

*snk*

Howard Bannister
8 years ago

It was “desmay” asking Farrell to rebut criticisms of AVFM as a hate site.

I… what?

I have lost my ability to even.

cloudiah
8 years ago

I saw Dean Esmay, driversuz, typoidblue, Attila Vinczer, all in there pooping up the thread. typhoidblue was even answering questions on Farrell’s behalf.

And of course they are downvoting anything that isn’t completely sycophantic.

But SRS brigades everything, WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!

Auntie Alias
Auntie Alias
8 years ago

What does SRS stand for?

tinyorc
8 years ago

A couple of questions on the bollocks that is “date fraud” – and specifically if it applies to male survivors of rape – have so far gone unanswered.

tinyorc
8 years ago

I feel like I shouldn’t change who I am just to fit the traditional male gender role. However I suspect that even ”normal” women don’t give guys like me a chance because I’m perceived as ”less of a man” and they need the approval of their environment.
I also think that most of women are as equally shallow as men, and I see my shyness as just a part of a weeding out process.
Are there different women out there, am I just looking in the wrong place?

Oh bless. “Different” women.

Translation: “Mr. Farrell, tell me the truth. Are all women everywhere actually just a homogenous blob of shallow, mercenary, alpha-chasing pack animals or is there a secret island where you’re keeping all the good ones?”

moldybrehd
8 years ago

or is there a secret island where you’re keeping all the good ones?”

Mammoth Island (ten miles off of Skull Island, if you take the scenic route).

tinyorc
8 years ago

?On the rare occasions that feminist groups admit that actually, yes, men do suffer discrimination in almost every facet of modern society, they then claim it all stems from ‘the patriarchy’.
If the patriarchy was created by men, and is maintained by men desperate to hold on to power, why the hell does it hurt the very people it supposedly exists to protect and empower?
This evil patriarchy we’ve created isn’t very good, is it? And we’re not very clever if we allow our own tool of oppression to cause ourselves to lose out legally and culturally.
Do you have any thoughts on this idea? Or am I oversimplifying a complex idea?

Oooo, oooo, I can answer this one!

Yes.

Falconer
8 years ago

@AuntieAlias: SRS is Shit Reddit Says, which collects awful things people say on Reddit and airs them. They get a lot of hate.

Auntie Alias
Auntie Alias
8 years ago

Thanks, Falconer!

Fibinachi
8 years ago

I DON’T KNOW HOW REDDIT WORKS

flails

samantha
8 years ago

Oh, darn. I missed it. Was it recorded and can it be seen on youtube?

cloudiah
8 years ago

Wut:

i assume you’re referring to the profile of a woman’s rear on the new ebook edition of The Myth of Male Power. first, that was my choice–i don’t want to put that off on the publisher!

i chose that to illustrate that the heterosexual man’s attraction to the naked body of a beautiful woman takes the power out of our upper brain and transports it into our lower brain. every heterosexual male knows this. and the sooner men confront the powerlessness of being a prisoner to this instinct, we may earn less money to pay for women’s drinks, dinners and diamonds, but we’ll have more control over our lives, and therefor more real power.

it’s in women’s interests for me to confront this. many heterosexual women feel imprisoned by men’s inability to be attracted to women who are more beautiful internally even if their rear is not perfect.

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