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Videos to get you PUMPED. Also, a creepshaming manifesto from the Men’s Rights subreddit.

Today I feel an irresistible urge to post music videos. Above, an awesome interpretation of a rock classic that is sure to get you PUMPED for the weekend.

Below, enjoy the silky voice of Phil Collins.

And here’s Jim Morrison apparently doing his impersonation of the most insufferable man in the universe.

Ok, ok. Here’s that creepshaming manifesto I promised. Or portions of it, anyway. (Like a lot of things written by MRAs, the whole thing is a lot longer than it needs to be.)

The term ‘Creep’ is used every single day to describe people who have done something creepy. A ‘Creep’ is, according to a dictionary, a detestable person, but not according to society today. Today ‘Creep’ is an everyday word that is plastered all over men’s foreheads whenever they do something women don’t like, there is a thousand ways for me to be creepy as a male that I don’t even recognize until it’s too late, or until someone else decides I’m a ‘Creep’. Here is society’s definition of a ‘Creep’:

A man who shows more attention, platonic, romantic or sexual, to a person then they so desire at that time.

[blah blah blah]

I have a little anecdote here for you all. I had a friend with benefits, a girl I was sleeping with every week or two with no romantic strings attached and it was awesome. I found myself loving this woman, not romantically but as a friend I couldn’t have asked for better. Fast forward a few weeks [blah blah blah]  The fact that I wasn’t aware of the boyfriend, that the message I sent wasn’t sexual at all and that I was a close personal friend of [oh just fucking shut up]

‘Creep’ is a term that gets abused all over this society; it gets pasted on a man’s forehead by women and scars them with a disfiguring social mark against their name to everyone who is around to hear them say it. Men, you are not a ‘Creep’ for showing a woman attention, you are not a ‘Creep’ for loving kids, or for showing interest in child things. You are a functioning human being. Any women who labels you a ‘Creep’ has problems, they don’t know how to deal with other peoples desires, they don’t respect men’s desires, they don’t realize that men have needs and have wants that don’t line up with their own. Any women who labels a man a ‘Creep’ without a dammed good reason cares only about her own desires, she believes only she can have flexible wants and differing needs and she can’t understand that you are just as human as they are, and that’s a little bit creepy in my honest opinion.


Woah. J.C.? The J.C.?

Sorry, Jesus, I didn’t know it was you.

Honestly, I don’t remember you being this whiny the first time around. But whatev. Good to see you.

Naturally, the fellas in the Men’s Rights subreddit think JC’s Creep-i-festo is pretty creeptastic. One of them even left this rather alarming comment:

Youareabadperson5 0 points 1 hour ago (4|4)  Creep is offensive to me. It's more offensive than a gender slur, its more offensive than a racial slur, its more offensive than a slap to the face. By using that word its as if someone is claiming you are trying to harm them sexually just because you are interacting with them. Its as if they are insuating that some one is a sex offender because they opened a conversation, or they said hi. It makes me blindingly, hatefully, ragefully angry.Yikes. I would go so far as to say that this comment is a bit creepy,

The “opened a conversation” bit is revealing, too. Hello, wannabe PUA!

(The folks in AgainstMensRights are making fun of the Creep-i-festo and making Jesus jokes too.)

173 replies on “Videos to get you PUMPED. Also, a creepshaming manifesto from the Men’s Rights subreddit.”

Oh, for FSM’s sake. You know, my general default (at and away from the keyboard) is to want to be kind to people. The only effect trolls have is to move me away from that default when I’m online, and be leery of being kind to anyone on the internet in case they turn out to be asshats. I don’t know if Joseph is a troll or not, but anyone who reacts to people extending him kindness and sympathy with a childish tantrum is an asshat at the least.

On a related note, some crap at work is also having the effect of lowering my faith in humanity. People can be such shits.

People can be shits… Sorry to rant here but I may have to “dump” someone close to me who I care about deeply but just can’t take their manipulation any longer. Friday I had to work late because of a really important presentation I am giving next week (which is essentially justifying a $2M program we are undertaking). I ended up getting out of work an hour late (which isn’t that bad IMHO). I had had plans with said friend after work. At 40 minutes after I was supposed to get off work I called said friend and said I would be another 20 min. He said he was still working anyway so I figured all was well. I called 25 min later when i finally got out of work and he said it was too late and he had gone home (lives kinda far away so driving back would be a bit impractical) and I made him wait for an hour and he got bored. When I confronted him saying that I had infact called him 25 minuts ago and he said he was still working I was pretty much called a liar (he said he never once said he was still working. Yes you did you ass! Quit gas lighting!). This isn’t even taking into account that I have waited well over an hour for him many times before. I’m done with this shit, but also feel like I have no other friends so I just put up with his shit.


Pseudostar: I thought I could be open here without being accused of being a comtemptable person. It seems I cannot. Don’t worry, you’ve shamed me into silenced.

I must bid this cruel world adieu and flounce for Justice!

Wow. Go figure, some people we try and get rid of for YEARS and they keep returning, but Joseph leaves instantaneously without any effort on our parts.

Go us?

Also, yeah, I know a lot of autism-spectrum folks, women and men and otherwise. People generally seem to assume autism is a “male” thing, due to various reasons. WTF. Has anyone ever seen the reverse scenario–man getting creeped on by creepy woman, only to have lots of “BUT WHAT IF AUTISM?” crop up? I’ve never seen it.

Nope, I’ve never seen it either. And when women are portrayed as creepers with boundary issues in fiction, they are full-blown, psychotic murderers. Men are just nerds with poor social skills, but somehow always end up dating the head cheerleader. I wonder if there’s some underlying cause for that, some pervasive set of attitudes and beliefs that pollute and shape the popular imagination…

RE: Unimaginative

Mental illness and axe-murdering in media tends to slew wildly, depending on the diagnosis and the gender of folks involved. (The old trend in multis is that the women are helpless victims incapable of surviving without their angelic therapist, while the men are all axe-murderers.) So that really depends on other factors than just sexism.

Am I the only one starting to get a troll, maybe sock, spidey sense from Joseph’s continued woe-is-me comments?

Yup… I didn’t respond to him last night for exactly that reason.
Honestly, I’m very suspicious of anyone who claims that their being socially awkward has led to them being called creeps on a daily basis. I am pretty awkward, and the only issue I’ve ever had was with me thinking I was being a creep. Nobody has ever called me one.
I can only imagine that it’s because not being a creep is one of my main motivations when I’m around people. Even if half of my thoughts are revolving around whether I’ve held, or avoided eye contact for too long, or if the way I’m standing seems weird, the other half is mostly concentrating on how the person I’m talking to is reacting. I really don’t think social awkwardness is a valid excuse for not paying attention to the people around you.

It never seems to occur to some of these guys that it’s possible to be socially awkward AND an asshole, and that being called a creep is about the latter rather than the former.

OK that was a bit vague. To expand – there’s a geek myth that if a dude is socially awkward he must also be a really sweet, kind, totally harmless person, and that these things go together like scones and jam. They don’t. There are awkward people who’re lovely, awkward people who’re bloody awful, and every possible point in between. “Awkward” and “nice” are not linked traits.

It’s like the sign the Nice Guy cosplayer has, about him being so unlikeable and building up the Friendzone myth. Some people could lose their awkwardness/shyness/whatever and still be raging entitled assholes.

Argenti – that other troll is jonatma, iirc. I doubt he’d have the wit to sock this elaborately, unless his whole fifteen-year-old-driveby schtick is just a front anyway. He just comes across as remarkably stupid.

But Mr Jo Mama’s stories about sexual assault and being called a creeper on a regular basis because he’s non-NT, plus a flounce about a comment that was nothing but kind … yeah, I’m really suspicious now. Like pecunium said, those stories were … convenient.

Wow, guys, speaking of creeps, I’ve been getting creeped on myself! On my blog, no less, which is really unusual.

So, random dude joins LJ, and somehow gloms on to me. He asks some questions, and I’m used to drive-bys like that, no big deal. But then, in literally the second message, he starts giving me his feelings about how sad he is that I had to leave my family, and don’t I feel conflicted considering they “tried to love [me]?”

I firmly shut him down, telling him that he was in NO position to talk about my family to me, because he was a stranger to me and I was a stranger to him, and this was not appropriate conversation topics to a stranger. He responded that to him, it was, and that true friends call each other on their shit, and started telling me about his nervous breakdowns. He also told me I was being “very defensive.”

People? Don’t do that. It’s creepy as fuck. This guy pushes to talk to me about intimate crap right off the bat, tries to get me to buy it, and then when I enforce my boundaries, he calls me defensive.

What’s even weirder is he reminds me a LOT of my rapist, who did a lot of the same tricks. He’s even the right age and in the right area of the country! I don’t think it is at all, just random chance. Plenty of creepers in Texas, after all.

LBT — ack, and nope, that’s not how true friends react to things like that, seeing how step one is, of course, assess why your friend is doing this, step pass judgement is like, step 1,000.

Pecunium — good, when I win the lottery I’m taking you! Spend a week inspecting every nook and craney. (I did not know about the runes, that’s just extra awesome considering how many empires and religions that building has withstood)

RE: CassandraSays

In what way is some random who you’ve spoken to a few times on LJ a “true friend”? He really is waving his creep flag all over the place. Boundaries, what are those?

I KNOW RIGHT. Also, turns out LJ hid a ‘suspicious’ message to me from him. Literally before I ever spoke to him, he sent me an article on ‘the 6 Creepiest Sexual Encounters in Comic Book History.’ And in the previous article, he tried to offer his parents’ place to stay on my trip.


On the plus side, I’m finding this guy entertainingly creepy, and am now using him for a blog entry on how creeping, gaslighting, and boundary-pushing works. I’m a bit curious how long he’ll follow me with me shutting him down.

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