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A Voice for Men considers embracing a pedophile — sorry, ephebophile — they once denounced as a GQ magazine secret agent

Remember this guy?
Remember this guy?

You may recall a fellow name Albert Calabrese from Jeff Sharlet’s brilliant GQ article about A Voice for Men’s conference last summer. You may not remember the name, but you may recall one important fact about him: He thinks the age of consent should be lowered to twelve years. “I would rather err on the side of 12-year-olds having sex,” he told Sharlet, “than on the side of ruining men’s lives.”

Calabrese, a former substitute teacher, has made his own “errors,” having won himself a spot on the sex offender registry in Fayetteville, Arkansas for “Unlawful Sexual Conduct With A Minor.”

There’s no question that Calabrese is a real person; a quick Google search will turn up the basic facts of his case, as well as a mugshot that is obviously of the same person whose photograph appears at the start of Sharlet’s piece.

But when Sharlet’s piece came out, with Calebrese’s picture at the top, angry AVFMers cried foul, with some insinuating that he was a sort of double-agent ephebophile hired by GQ to make the Men’s Rights movement look bad.

In an angry and often incoherent post attacking Sharlet, AVFM’s “Collegiate Activism Director” Sage Gerard (aka Victor Zen) declared:

The funny bit about the pedo is that Jeff in reality “found” him and put him in a car with the Honey Badgers to agitate them. Jeff was also seen ushering Pedobear around, and they rarely separated. AVfM will have a story on Jeff’s odd use of the (guy possibly paid to act like a) pedophile later.

In a comment to Gerard’s post, AVFM “managing editor” Dean Esmay claimed that he had some sort of smoking gun:

By the way Jeff–and I know you’re reading this–let’s be real clear, we got the real story now on your little stunt with Pedobear Calzone. Expect to read about it soon. …

Also, would you like to come clean publicly now with how you met the Pedobear that none of us had heard of until you ran your sweaty-palmed “report” for GQ? Or do I have to just publish what we know now for sure saying you had no comment?

Needless to say, the promised story about “Pedobear Calzone” never appeared.

What did appear — and which I only recently discovered — was a video from Calebrese himself, giving his side of the story and, by the way, confirming the key points Sharlet made about him. Including the bit about 12-year-olds.

Faced with the video, AVFMers have not only abandoned their conspiracy theories about him — they’re considering welcoming him aboard.

In a comment on Calebrese’s video on YouTube, Esmay noted that he felt a bit ambivalent about Pedobear Calzone Calebrese:

I have extremely mixed reactions here; as a victim of childhood sexual abuse, I do believe in forgiveness and yet your position is extreme. I’m conflicted in knowing how to react to you.

If you’re wondering why Esmay would even consider “forgiving” an admitted perpetrator of sexual abuse he had been denouncing as a phony only a few days earlier, well, here’s a bit more of Esmay’s comment:

That said, one thing is perfectly obvious: you were used and Sharlet was not honest at all. He had a bad used car salesman ooze to him, and the article just confirmed that.

An enemy of Jeff Sharlet is my friend?

AVFM head boy Paul Elam, meanwhile, felt no inner conflict:

Paul Elam 1 month ago  I want to run this at AVFM. I am not conflicted in my reaction. I disagree with some of this man's views, but not all of them. Sex offender registries are a bad joke that devastate a lot of good people.  http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/government-tyranny/sexual-predator-insanity/  Whether I agree with Mr. Calabrese or not, it remains Jeff Sharlet who is the scumbag in this story,

Apparently, in Elam’s eyes, “writing unflattering things about AVFM” is a less-forgivable crime than “Unlawful Sexual Conduct With A Minor.”

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M.
M.
7 years ago

Linux, HOLY SHIT. You’re not new, you know about the rules against ableism – and the r-word isn’t even like “Crazy” where disallowing it is pretty much unique to WHTM, the r-word’s been considered ableist since before “Ableism” was itself a word.

Lea
Lea
7 years ago

Threadruption!

Has anyone been over to Vice? http://www.vice.com/en_uk/read/calm-down-gamergate-283

The reply from “Slarty Bartfarst”. Lulz.

Cyberwulf
Cyberwulf
7 years ago

“Pointing to a doctor’s report, the judge said that while growing up the defendant suffered “a great deal of family disruption and abuse, making him an insecure, socially withdrawn, timid, and extremely immature young man with limited self-esteem.” ”

Oh wah, wah! Plenty of people grow up with family disruption and in abusive environments, and yet SOMEHOW they manage not to sexually assault THREE YEAR OLD CHILDREN. I guess I can run out and beat this guy to within an inch of his life and then cry about my terrible home life so I can get a lighter sentence.

deezers
7 years ago

Not necessary at all David. Just ewwww at them all. Wrong on all levels.

Bina
Bina
7 years ago

What the hell is a honey badger?

It’s something AVFMorons calls its women’s auxiliary, I suspect because of this hilarious video about a badass critter that can even get bitten by cobras and survive:

They (AVFMorons’ FeMRA division) seem to think they’re bulletproof badasses, but I’d say they’re more like reason-proof jackasses.

Paradoxical Intention
7 years ago

How dare they disrespect my noble house. Helga Hufflepuff is ashamed of them and so am I.

On a happier note, I saw this cute video and figured it could be a good resource and very helpful.

And it was animated by a transwoman of color, and written and narrated by another woman of color. 😀

misseb47
misseb47
7 years ago

NicolaLuna and KathleenB-That is awful!! What a disgusting pair of creeps! I am glad that both of you escaped unharmed. *shivers*

“Would this jackass have preferred to ‘err on the side of caution’ then? Maybe I was a prepubescent minx, leading an innocent man around by his dick!”

Yep, that is EXACTLY what these guys would say. I mean, Paul Elam stated that he would vote not guilty in a rape trial no matter how much evidence there was. Also, he didn’t even believe his own daughter when she told him that she was raped! (see Jeff Sharlet’s recent article-http://www.gq.com/news-politics/big-issues/201503/mens-rights-activism-the-red-pill?currentPage=1) Not only that, he threatened to disown her if she reported it. He then called this ‘good parenting’. What an areshole. Fortunately, only those who think like them take these guys seriously. This is not many, if the reports on AVfM’s traffic and poor fundraising performance are anything to go by. Everyone else can see him and his ilk for what he is/they are-“an ambulatory wankstain”. Actually no, that is WAY too kind and is an insult to real ambulatory wankstains.

NicolaLuna -“You deserve trees everywhere an apology for wasting the oxygen they produce.”

They sure do, they sure do.

tralala – Thanx for the link. With all this evidence and all the people coming forward on this subreddit and on YesAllWomen, MRAs still believe that male entitlement and rape does not exist. I wonder what it is going to take to convince them? Nothing, most likely.

Zolnier
7 years ago

Paul Elam has children, it’s official, the universe is faulty.

Banana Jackie Cake, the Best Jackie and Cake! Yum! (^v^)
Banana Jackie Cake, the Best Jackie and Cake! Yum! (^v^)
7 years ago

He…his daughter…and he…he didn’t…

It’s official: Paul Elam is, in fact, a failed genetic experience trying to give a worm sentience. Science has failed us. FAILED US.

Banana Jackie Cake, the Best Jackie and Cake! Yum! (^v^)
Banana Jackie Cake, the Best Jackie and Cake! Yum! (^v^)
7 years ago

I meant experiment. Yeah…

Paradoxical Intention
7 years ago

NicolaLuna -“You deserve trees everywhere an apology for wasting the oxygen they produce.”

We might have to plant another rainforest to make up for it. : /

Zolnier
7 years ago

@BJC

I like experience, makes me think the scientists were tripping balls at the time.

LBT
LBT
7 years ago

RE: Paradoxical Intention

That vid was so cute! Thanks for sharing!

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