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Deprived of new women to hate in Toronto, A Voice for Menners resort to rape jokes, gay bashing

Nick Reading and Dean Esmay in the lion's den
Nick Reading and Dean Esmay amongst the counterprotesters

Pity the poor MRAs who travelled hundreds — if not thousands — of miles to AVFM’s big weekend in Toronto hoping for a confrontation with the evil feminazis that never happened. They wanted footage of angry women they could watch again and again on YouTube. They wanted new names and faces to put up on Register-Her. In short, they wanted new women to hate.

But alas, the feminists, for the most part, stayed home. And the ones who showed up were mostly dudes, from the LBGT activist group BashBack.  Making things even worse, they didn’t block any doors or try to crash AVFM’s rally. What they did, mostly, was chant things the MRAs didn’t like.

No, it was the MRAs who ignored the explicit instructions of the police to stay away from their opponents. Evidently hoping to provoke the confrontation that had been denied them thus far, a sizeable proportion of the AVFMers and Mens Rights Edmontoners in Toronto that day leave the spot designated for their rally to face off against the BashBack counter-protest.

How do we know this? Because Men’s Rights Edmonton filmed them doing it and put it on YouTube. And AVFM posted it on their site as well.

It’s kind of remarkable that they did. For one thing, it provides even more proof of how tiny the rally itself was. And it shows pretty clearly what an immature misogynistic buffoon Nick Reading of Men’s Rights Edmonton really is.

For those who don’t have the patience to watch the whole thing, here’s a quick summary:

The video starts over near where the MRA rally itself is being organized (or had just finished up). Nick Reading introduces himself.

Then, in the distance, the counterprotesters begin chanting “racist, sexist, anti-gay, MRA, go away.”

“What’s wrong with being racist and sexist?” Nick shouts in response. “It’s awesome!”

No, really. It’s about 40 seconds in.

Shortly afterwards he marches over and into the small crowd of counterprotesters, clearly itching for some kind of ideological smackdown. He’s followed by Dean Esmay, who’s indignant that MRAs are being called “anti-gay.” Which makes me wonder if he ever actually reads the website he’s the “Managing Editor” of. He yells about this for a time, then leaves. An assortment of others from the MRA crowd also show up. Some yell, others film.

Nick, who remains in the midst of the BashBackers, does his best to try to provoke, explaining his Patriarchy Party candidacy and generally acting like an ass. Eventually he elicits an angry reaction from several group members by declaring, roughly 5:50 into the video, that rape is funny; indeed, that “sometimes it’s hilarious.”

But that’s as close as he gets to provoking the confrontation he’s clearly itching for. After several minutes, apparently having run out of inspiration, he finally decides to leave.

And, scene.

This embarrassing video is in fact the first real footage of the events in Toronto that AVFM has put online so far — all the others they’ve put up have been interviews after the rally.

But I guess the folks at AVFM figured that posting this was preferable to posting video of the anemic rally itself.

And it’s true that the counterprotesters don’t exactly come across brilliantly in the video either. Despite their admirable restraint in the face of the MRA provocations, their overheated rhetoric is often way off the mark, and their old-school chants seem faintly ridiculous in an age of YouTube. And, seriously, wearing pink hammers and sickles to show support for LBGT folks being persecuted in Russia today? Stalin made male homosexuality punishable by five years in a labor camp; that law wasn’t repealed until 1993.

But it is really hard to see how Nick Reading telling a group of mostly gay men that rape is “hilarious” helps to solve the “crisis” facing men and boys– the ostensible reason for the rally in the first place.

Even more interesting than Reading’s abortive attempts to bait the BashBack protesters in Toronto were the reactions of AVFM readers to the video itself. Deprived of new women to hate, they turned instead to bashing the gay men in the video instead.

Mike Hunt — oh, very funny! — offers this totally not homophobic at all assessment of the BashBack activists:

I fully support gay rights and I am the last person to discriminate against gays, but did anyone else notice that all of these protesters seem to be gay? And not self assured, confident in who they are gay, but feminine and completely out of touch with any aspect of themselves that is masculine gay?

JinnBottle, meanwhile, claimed that AVFM had cured his homophobia — no, really — but that these protesters were making him think that maybe he should return to his old ways.

I came to AVfM definitely not “the last person to discriminate against Gays” – at least in my thinking. That thinking specifically took the form of repellence to the ubiquitous ball-busting of (mostly straight, but even other gay) men by gay guys I’d witnessed for 35-plus years in both the politico-social and personal spheres, ever since gay men had “come out”, about 1969.

Subsequently I saw that some of the clearest thinkers, potent social observers and eloquent writers on AVfM are gay – and bi … I rethought my thinking, and thought … the Radfem/Misandric Gay Guy was becoming a thing passing.

Now along come this fresh troupe of Gay misandrists and feminist allies representative of the old notion that, if not *all* gay males are self-hating masochist insulated style-boys, then a majority are.

Riku, meanwhile, didn’t hem or haw or pretend that he was anything but a bigot — and went right for the rape jokes:

You should have raped them guys. These guys literally begged for it. That’s what you were there for, no? 🙁 Thought I’d see some rapes on the event.

AVFM: Where jokes about raping gay men are a form of human rights activism.

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SittieKitty
10 years ago

I like maestress.

freemage
10 years ago

Now, now, Falconer and ivyshoots. This is a feminist site. According to the MRAs, this means we’ll have nothing to do with reasonable discourse and civil working out of misunderstandings. So you two will just have to go back and start again, and this time, devolve into a bitter cycle of recrimination and insults.

Or we could all just drink some dudebro tear wine, instead. That stuff’s delish.

grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

What ridiculous MRA poster are you referring to, ivyshoot? Apparently you changed your icon from it before I got here and now I’m curious.

magnesium
magnesium
10 years ago

Fidelbogen is being an internet tough guy in the comments too:

wish, I wish, I wish that I had been present. I would have waded in and “worked” that crowd of counter-demonstrators in a very, very different way. And if I could have cloned myself x10, we would have throughly fucked their shit up and dismantled their messaged. And no, none of it would have required getting physical.

All typos are his.

Someone else makes a comment about how this counter-protest shows your Femini$t Taxe$ at work. Like a small queer anarchist group is funded by the government. LOL.

Fidelbogen and his army of clones are coming to fuck everyone’s shit up and show those LGBT rights protestors who the real oppressed minority is.

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

What ridiculous MRA poster are you referring to, ivyshoot? Apparently you changed your icon from it before I got here and now I’m curious.

I basically quoted it in my knee-jerk side-eye up there. As I recall, it had a pale blue background with a pink symbol-for-woman on it, and printed over that it said FEMINISM IS DUMB and then at the bottom there was a dark blue bar with white type that said OH MY GOD, IT’S SO DUMB.

But the only dumb one here is me.

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

Someone else makes a comment about how this counter-protest shows your Femini$t Taxe$ at work. Like a small queer anarchist group is funded by the government. LOL.

Good thing they got their protest in before the shutdown. It affects Canada, too, you know.

quantumscale
quantumscale
10 years ago

I keep getting Fidelbogen and Fibinachi mixed up. Not good.

grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

Wow, that poster sounds. . . dumb. . .

Howard Bannister
10 years ago

No, no, it’s easy to tell them apart, quantumscale!

Both of them are verbose

But one makes sense.

Both of them have long names starting with F

But one of them has something that sounds like a British word for boogers in there.

grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

was it a real MRA poster or a parody poster? Confused, I be.

cloudiah
10 years ago

But one of them has something that sounds like a British word for boogers in there.

It’s why I call him FaithfulBooger. Because I am 12.

quantumscale
quantumscale
10 years ago

… Now I need to know what the British word for boogers is…

Howard Bannister
10 years ago

Not a Harry Potter reader, I take it?

Bogies. 😀

Howard Bannister
10 years ago

@Falconer, ivyshoots

Poe’s law strikes again!

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

Bogies.

Which makes for interesting reading going from military aviation fiction to Pratchett, sometimes.

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

@Falconer, ivyshoots

Poe’s law strikes again!

Avenge … me ….

Howard Bannister
10 years ago

“By Grebthar’s Hammer…”

No, wait, that’s not quite right.

Robert
Robert
10 years ago

Presumably if they were manly-men gay men like Jack Malebranche / Donovan, or the g0ys, they would have been welcomed as allies.

That said, I am also a little twitchy about the reclamation of the hammer and sickle. It still smells of Stalin and gulags to me. But I feel the same way about the swastika and the Rebel stars ‘n’ bars.

cloudiah
10 years ago

As the kind of socialist who would have been killed or imprisoned under Stalin, I have to admit I’m not a big fan of the hammer & sickle either.

Anyway, you might be interested to read this Huff Po piece on the Toronto talk & the “social gathering” afterwards.

ivyshoots
10 years ago

Here’s the poster: http://victorzen.files.wordpress.com/2013/07/feminism-is-dumb.pdf Here’s the post from 8/28 that led me to it: http://manboobz.com/2013/08/28/the-cartoon-artistry-of-victor-zen-mens-human-rights-activist-human/, “posters” link. I commented, “This poster is so lolwut I made it my new icon; is it hilarious enough not to need an irony alert? Also, can anyone explain the meaning of the comedy/tragedy masks with guns? I got nothin.” There was an exchange about the masks, and no one said anything about the icon, so I forgot about it. It’s so awesomely oblivious to its own dumbness, it tickled me.

Howard Bannister
10 years ago

It’s so awesomely oblivious to its own dumbness, it tickled me.

All I can think of now is Ben Stiller as Derek Zoolander. “You think you’re too cool for school, but I have news for you…… you’re not.”

ivyshoots
10 years ago

The hammer and sickle symbol represents workers of factory and field joining in communism; it preceded Stalin’s reign, and has been used by many communist entities besides the Soviet Union. And Aeroflot still uses it in its logo!

katz
10 years ago

Cloudiah, did you get that poster to upload to the DeviantArt group? I’ve messed with the settings and hopefully I made it work better.

Athywren
Athywren
10 years ago

I basically quoted it in my knee-jerk side-eye up there. As I recall, it had a pale blue background with a pink symbol-for-woman on it, and printed over that it said FEMINISM IS DUMB and then at the bottom there was a dark blue bar with white type that said OH MY GOD, IT’S SO DUMB.

But the only dumb one here is me.

Full disclosure? Every time I saw that avatar, I got confused, a little annoyed, read through all her comments I could see for context, went, “huh…” and carried on. This is every time I saw it, every single time, despite remembering having done it before. So… you’re not the only dumb one.

I’ve heard “Mx.” used before, which is cool but damn near impossible to pronounce without sounding silly.

How does that sound? Like… “mujsh”? Where jsh is the sound that a blender makes when you turn it on very, very briefly? Like a drunk Glaswegian trying to say “miss”?

I like maestress.

I want to support this, but I feel like it would need the application of an Igor/imp slave voice.

Now along come this fresh troupe of Gay misandrists and feminist allies representative of the old notion that, if not *all* gay males are self-hating masochist insulated style-boys, then a majority are.

Funny thing, this concept of a self-hating X. Take the idea of a self-hating Jew. That’s not a Jewish person who actually hates zirself, but one who is critical of fundamentalist, Hasidic Judaism. You know, the sects who don’t want women who “dress immodestly” to be allowed on the same buses as them, who spit, and worse, at young girls on the way to school because their already highly conservative clothing isn’t quite conservative enough. The ones who turn up in the news from time to time and make you wonder what the fuck is going on in their minds. The label “self hating” is given for being critical of the worst and most irrational examples of your group.
I wonder if it means anything that the MRM is using it against their critics now…?
Also, so cute that they think masculinity is incompatible with femininity, and all about bravado.

kittehserf
10 years ago

I see some MRA jackass in that shot has a “Listen to Men” sign.

Like we and our ancestors have had any fucking choice about that over the millennia.