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Deprived of new women to hate in Toronto, A Voice for Menners resort to rape jokes, gay bashing

Nick Reading and Dean Esmay in the lion's den
Nick Reading and Dean Esmay amongst the counterprotesters

Pity the poor MRAs who travelled hundreds — if not thousands — of miles to AVFM’s big weekend in Toronto hoping for a confrontation with the evil feminazis that never happened. They wanted footage of angry women they could watch again and again on YouTube. They wanted new names and faces to put up on Register-Her. In short, they wanted new women to hate.

But alas, the feminists, for the most part, stayed home. And the ones who showed up were mostly dudes, from the LBGT activist group BashBack.  Making things even worse, they didn’t block any doors or try to crash AVFM’s rally. What they did, mostly, was chant things the MRAs didn’t like.

No, it was the MRAs who ignored the explicit instructions of the police to stay away from their opponents. Evidently hoping to provoke the confrontation that had been denied them thus far, a sizeable proportion of the AVFMers and Mens Rights Edmontoners in Toronto that day leave the spot designated for their rally to face off against the BashBack counter-protest.

How do we know this? Because Men’s Rights Edmonton filmed them doing it and put it on YouTube. And AVFM posted it on their site as well.

It’s kind of remarkable that they did. For one thing, it provides even more proof of how tiny the rally itself was. And it shows pretty clearly what an immature misogynistic buffoon Nick Reading of Men’s Rights Edmonton really is.

For those who don’t have the patience to watch the whole thing, here’s a quick summary:

The video starts over near where the MRA rally itself is being organized (or had just finished up). Nick Reading introduces himself.

Then, in the distance, the counterprotesters begin chanting “racist, sexist, anti-gay, MRA, go away.”

“What’s wrong with being racist and sexist?” Nick shouts in response. “It’s awesome!”

No, really. It’s about 40 seconds in.

Shortly afterwards he marches over and into the small crowd of counterprotesters, clearly itching for some kind of ideological smackdown. He’s followed by Dean Esmay, who’s indignant that MRAs are being called “anti-gay.” Which makes me wonder if he ever actually reads the website he’s the “Managing Editor” of. He yells about this for a time, then leaves. An assortment of others from the MRA crowd also show up. Some yell, others film.

Nick, who remains in the midst of the BashBackers, does his best to try to provoke, explaining his Patriarchy Party candidacy and generally acting like an ass. Eventually he elicits an angry reaction from several group members by declaring, roughly 5:50 into the video, that rape is funny; indeed, that “sometimes it’s hilarious.”

But that’s as close as he gets to provoking the confrontation he’s clearly itching for. After several minutes, apparently having run out of inspiration, he finally decides to leave.

And, scene.

This embarrassing video is in fact the first real footage of the events in Toronto that AVFM has put online so far — all the others they’ve put up have been interviews after the rally.

But I guess the folks at AVFM figured that posting this was preferable to posting video of the anemic rally itself.

And it’s true that the counterprotesters don’t exactly come across brilliantly in the video either. Despite their admirable restraint in the face of the MRA provocations, their overheated rhetoric is often way off the mark, and their old-school chants seem faintly ridiculous in an age of YouTube. And, seriously, wearing pink hammers and sickles to show support for LBGT folks being persecuted in Russia today? Stalin made male homosexuality punishable by five years in a labor camp; that law wasn’t repealed until 1993.

But it is really hard to see how Nick Reading telling a group of mostly gay men that rape is “hilarious” helps to solve the “crisis” facing men and boys– the ostensible reason for the rally in the first place.

Even more interesting than Reading’s abortive attempts to bait the BashBack protesters in Toronto were the reactions of AVFM readers to the video itself. Deprived of new women to hate, they turned instead to bashing the gay men in the video instead.

Mike Hunt — oh, very funny! — offers this totally not homophobic at all assessment of the BashBack activists:

I fully support gay rights and I am the last person to discriminate against gays, but did anyone else notice that all of these protesters seem to be gay? And not self assured, confident in who they are gay, but feminine and completely out of touch with any aspect of themselves that is masculine gay?

JinnBottle, meanwhile, claimed that AVFM had cured his homophobia — no, really — but that these protesters were making him think that maybe he should return to his old ways.

I came to AVfM definitely not “the last person to discriminate against Gays” – at least in my thinking. That thinking specifically took the form of repellence to the ubiquitous ball-busting of (mostly straight, but even other gay) men by gay guys I’d witnessed for 35-plus years in both the politico-social and personal spheres, ever since gay men had “come out”, about 1969.

Subsequently I saw that some of the clearest thinkers, potent social observers and eloquent writers on AVfM are gay – and bi … I rethought my thinking, and thought … the Radfem/Misandric Gay Guy was becoming a thing passing.

Now along come this fresh troupe of Gay misandrists and feminist allies representative of the old notion that, if not *all* gay males are self-hating masochist insulated style-boys, then a majority are.

Riku, meanwhile, didn’t hem or haw or pretend that he was anything but a bigot — and went right for the rape jokes:

You should have raped them guys. These guys literally begged for it. That’s what you were there for, no? 🙁 Thought I’d see some rapes on the event.

AVFM: Where jokes about raping gay men are a form of human rights activism.

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titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

not self assured, confident in who they are gay, but feminine and completely out of touch with any aspect of themselves that is masculine gay

OMG, the protesters were the wrong sort of gay!?! ‘cos if they’d been a different sort of gay, that would have been ok, right? *head-desk*

augochlorella
10 years ago

There was a reply to Riku’s comment that I naively thought was going to be someone calling him out for his obviously inappropriate rape joke, but it was just about the video quality. I thought MRA’s were trying to tone down their outward acceptance of rape apology for the press recently?

augochlorella
10 years ago

Also, I hope his nym didn’t come from this Riku Riku, because Kingdom Hearts is my childhood and I don’t want bigoted assholes touching it.

augochlorella
10 years ago

Whoops, there should be one less Riku there.

Malitia
Malitia
10 years ago

… did the MRAs claiming to be not homophobic just pull a no true Scotsman on the gay activists? ^^? I mean I would assume gays know better what it means to be gay than straight, cis guys. Probably one of the reasons I’m not an MRA.

mildlymagnificent
10 years ago

Oh, happy happy joy joy. Yet another video to not watch.

Thanks for doing the watching for us ferretscatsDavid.

SittieKitty
10 years ago

I could have read what Riku said as Poe, but then I remembered the website it was posted on.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

“You guys are complaining, ‘Oh, we’re so disempowered because we’re white men.’ Maybe it’s just because you’re pathetic.”

Zing.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Some human rights movement they got there. What a bunch of assholes.

Feminist Bees
10 years ago

And, seriously, wearing pink hammers and sickles to show support for LBGT folks being persecuted in Russia today? Stalin made male homosexuality punishable by five years in a labor camp; that law wasn’t repealed until 1993.

Um, I respectfully disagree with whatever you’re trying to communicate here:

1. “Russia today” is not the USSR of 30 years ago. It is falacious to say that the hammer and sickle is somehow connected to the modern political environment of homophobia in Russia today.

2. I don’t think it’s fair to reduce all uses of it to the immoral actions of Stalin. It is a symbol of communists and labor movement, and is still used today.

I don’t think this is a fair criticism of the Bash Back TO protesters.

Weston Renoud
10 years ago

Feminist Bees I was feeling the same thing. I think the pink hammer and sickle is a pretty effective symbol because of the distinct associations, and making it pink was a clear appropriation of the symbol.

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
10 years ago

did the MRAs claiming to be not homophobic just pull a no true Scotsman on the gay activists?

Nah, true Scotsmen dress way too feminine for their tastes.

ivyshoots
10 years ago

Even if you don’t want to watch the whole video, please skip to 10:00 and listen to what the woman says. In less than 30 seconds, she sums up the entire problem and gives the obvious solution. In a loving, inclusive way.

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

Even if you don’t want to watch the whole video, please skip to 10:00 and listen to what the woman says. In less than 30 seconds, she sums up the entire problem and gives the obvious solution. In a loving, inclusive way.

… I’ll get right on that, Mz. FEMINISM IS DUMB OH MY GOD IT’S SO DUMB.

Apropos of nothing, I find myself needing a gender-neutral title to complement Mr./Mrs./Ms.

Like I’m ever going to call Argenti “Mx. Aertheri” anyway

cloudiah
10 years ago

Even if you don’t want to watch the whole video, please skip to 10:00 and listen to what the woman says.

Yeah, she was pretty cool. It looked like that guy was filming her, but I couldn’t find anything online with better sound.

ivyshoots
10 years ago

Falconer, was that a belated response to my question of whether that ridiculous MRA poster was obvious enough to not be mistaken as sincere if I used it as my icon? If so, I’ll take that as a big old “no.”

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

Sorry, I didn’t see you ask that. Never mind me, I am the dumb.

Malitia
Malitia
10 years ago

Nah, true Scotsmen dress way too feminine for their tastes.

I can’t imagine why. :] (I’m waiting for men’s skirts to catch on since the 90s.)

katz
10 years ago

Yeah, Falconer, ivyshoots is legit as far as I know.

ivyshoots
10 years ago

Falconer, not dumb at all, just perhaps as logical/literal as your icon? It doesn’t work as a joke if I have to explain it, so I changed it.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Fidelbogen is being an internet tough guy in the comments too:

wish, I wish, I wish that I had been present. I would have waded in and “worked” that crowd of counter-demonstrators in a very, very different way. And if I could have cloned myself x10, we would have throughly fucked their shit up and dismantled their messaged. And no, none of it would have required getting physical.

All typos are his.

Someone else makes a comment about how this counter-protest shows your Femini$t Taxe$ at work. Like a small queer anarchist group is funded by the government. LOL.

katz
10 years ago

I noticed that Bash Back sign in the photos but didn’t realize it was the counter-protesters. If that whole group wasn’t MRAs, then that crowd was incredibly small.

ivyshoots
10 years ago

The camera pans around twice at the beginning, and I counted the people, being very generous to add a few whenever there was a small group in the distance, and I got to 50.

Ally S
10 years ago

Apropos of nothing, I find myself needing a gender-neutral title to complement Mr./Mrs./Ms.

I’ve heard “Mx.” used before, which is cool but damn near impossible to pronounce without sounding silly.

katz
10 years ago

The correct answer is “The Right Honorable.”

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