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Amanda Marcotte takes down Sunshine Mary; Mary digs her hole deeper

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So Amanda Marcotte has some thoughts on Sunshine Mary’s post about feminism allegedly reducing women to nothing more than sex objects:

Why should women want the attention of men who see them as nothing more than unpaid servants and semen toilets? …

The alternative to having a hateful misogynist around who expects you to clean up after him, accept his ranting about how women are a repulsive subhuman class whose only purpose is service to men, and to masturbate him without any hope of sexual pleasure yourself is simple: Not being with such a man. As many feminists can tell you, there’s a really pleasant alternative: Men who like women and like to hang out with us and aren’t just tolerating us in exchange for sex and housework.

But what if, as manosphere men (and antifeminist women like Sunshine Mary) like to gloat, you can’t find a man?

Being alone is better than being with a man who thinks you’re part of a degraded class put here to serve him. No matter how much misogynists may rant, they can’t get around this inherent problem in their philosophy, which is that “alone” is always a superior alternative to their company.

Sunshine Mary has responded with a post that basically argues, well, but men don’t like you, you fat slutty feminists — take that!

One of the core pillars of feminism seems to be trying to control how men think about women.  We want to be seen as smart, so by fiat order we’ll command men to see us as equally intelligent.  We want to be seen as having the ability to be sexually promiscuous, so we’ll command men to hold a positive opinion of sluttery.  We want to be seen as beautiful at 200 pounds, so we’ll command men to find us hot despite our obesity.

But it doesn’t work.  Men don’t like slutty women for anything other than sex, as the last comment thread here rather conclusively proved.  Men don’t find fat women attractive.  Men don’t like bitchy, loud-mouthed mannish feminists.  Men don’t care about women’s supposed careers.  All the commands in the world will only cause men to keep their opinions quiet, but it does not change those opinions.  All the attempts in the world at resocializing men to like what feminism has turned women into will always fail because it works against the natural order of things.

Now this is just nonsensical and, you know, not true for all but a backwards and rather assholish subset of men. But it’s what follows that’s really chilling — not chilling because it reflects reality, but chilling because it suggests how punitive and self-hating Sunshine Mary’s philosophy really is.

She argues that feminists find the Manosphere “scary” because manosphere misogynists won’t do what feminists want them to do.

It is scary to imagine that men will stop doing what they are told by women to do.  It is scary to feminists in particular because, instead of being dependent on one man like I am, they are dependent on men as a group to fund them.

Men pay the majority of taxes in the United States.  Without men’s taxes, student financial aid for Women’s Studies degrees will dry up.  Without men’s taxes, baby mamas will starve.  Without men financing it, women who are being placed into corporate leadership simply as a response to affirmative action and who then quit these jobs after a year to write tear-filled articles in the Atlantic about work-life balance, demanding even more subsidies from men to ensure that women never need to suffer the consequences for their stupid choices, will cease.  I only have to manage my husband’s opinion of me in order to secure his provisioning; feminists have to control all men’s opinions of them in order to secure their provisioning.

Yep, that’s right. Sunshine Mary believes that women are incapable of taking care of themselves and so must depend, essentially, on appeasing men in order to survive. She thinks she’s lucky because she only has to appease one man, while women who actually, you know, earn a living have to appease all men. Because they’re not really earning a living. They’re just playing at earning a living because the men of the world are nice enough to humor them.

But don’t make the men mad, Sunshine Mary warns, because then you’re screwed!

And she seems rather pleased that she can make this threat from what she percieves as her position of relative security.

How fucked up is that?

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Alice Sanguinaria
8 years ago

Say what now? Everything I do is for men and men only, and the only reason I’m in college studying is because a man let me do it?

Can someone help me find my eyes. I think they rolled so hard they achieved exit velocity.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Hey, she may be a hostage, but she has only one captor to worry about so that’s way better than being out in the world where there are billions of them! Her warm and positive view of men is so touching, really it is.

Also, I know the consensus here is that we shouldn’t snark on people’s looks, but I’m afraid that I have to point out that I’ve seen pictures of Mary and having done so makes her rants about how unattractive men find feminists extra funny.

hellkell
hellkell
8 years ago

Does Mary have a job other than being a hateful jackass? If not, she better hope her husband never gets fed up with her. If she thinks feminism is the apocalypse, just try getting a job with no skills and a long absence from the workforce.

kittehserf
8 years ago

It’s like Amanda and David said: if that’s the sort of thing men/a subset of men think about me or any other woman, then their opinion is not worth having and they can go fuck themselves, because they’re just pieces of shit on legs.

Bumshine Squarey* can go walk on all the Legos. Maybe she’s reflecting the way the scum she’s married to has messed with her mind, but projecting his filth onto other men, and his ideas about women onto us? FAIL.

*© thenatfantastic, 2013.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Given how often Mary’s husband has already cheated on her I’m betting that she’s already worried, which is why she’s trying so hard to convince herself that she’s the perfect wife and that makes her divorce-proof.

ceebarks
ceebarks
8 years ago

Girlfriend needs to quit sniffing glue.

She kinda reminds me of the hyperinflation doomsayers/goldbugs of a few yrs back. “Hyperinflation is coming! Helicopter Ben! Zimbabwe! Put all yr worthless fiat paper into gold and go galt! That’ll learn ’em!”

Now, pretty much nobody actually did that, but a great amount of hot air was expended in the process.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

And again, as I said last time she came up, I’d feel sorry for her if she wasn’t trying so hard to make other women feel as unhappy and insecure as she does.

kittehserf
8 years ago

I only have to manage my husband’s opinion of me in order to secure his provisioning; feminists have to control all men’s opinions of them in order to secure their provisioning.

Um, what? Only two men’s opinions of me matter regarding “provisioning”: my boss and the general manager. That’s no different from any of the men in the company, and I’m better off than most of ’em because I’m not at head office, having to put up with the general manager. What all-but-two-men-in-the-world think of me (wow, I had no idea billions of men knew I existed) is not what I’d call relevant.

kittehserf
8 years ago

Ahoy, ceebarks – I don’t think I said hello when you started posting, and have you had your Official Welcome Package yet?

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

I love how the word “provisioning” makes it sound like hubbie keeps her in a stable and she has to make sure her tail looks nice or he might refuse to give her fresh hay.

katz
8 years ago

I love how Sunshinemary reads “Why should women want the attention of men…?” and hears “Feminists want to control how men think.” No, really, men are free to think whatever they like, extra free because women don’t need to interact with them at all if we don’t want!

ceebarks
ceebarks
8 years ago

Ah, thanks, kittehserf. Ahoy!

I shall endeavor to learn the manboobz lore forthwith. 😀 and possibly integrate it into my next research project? That would be simply amazing.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Question – if Mary isn’t trying to control how her man thinks, why is she very clearly describing the steps she takes to manipulate him into not leaving her?

Karalora
Karalora
8 years ago

So if I’m understanding her correctly…if women don’t stop being so fat and ugly and uppity, then men will collectively punish us by committing mass tax evasion, thus defunding all the social services we rely on. And the various agencies responsible for tax collection in the world will just, like, twiddle their thumbs and allow this to happen.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

That would be the best response ever to an IRS audit. Someone should make it into a miniseries.

“The Man Who Refused To Pay His Taxes Because There Were Too Many Fat Chicks At The Office”

kittehserf
8 years ago

ceebarks – a Manboobz-integrated research project would be awesome indeed. 🙂

karalora – not to mention that menz never use any kind of social services ever, so of course all that tax evasion would never affect them.

I wonder how Bumshine copes when she meets women who’re not conventionally attractive, are happily partnered (I’ll assume a cis-het situation here, ‘cos she’d turn up her nose at any others) and feminist? How does she deal with all the men who’re not imposing their misogyny on the people around them?

moldybrehd
8 years ago

That would be the best response ever to an IRS audit. Someone should make it into a miniseries.

Or into a comic…

sparky
sparky
8 years ago

“One of the core pillars of feminism seems to be trying to control how men think about women.”

Hey, feminists, what are your favorite techniques for controlling how men think about women? Mine’s playing subliminal message tapes at night while he sleeps!

kittehserf
8 years ago

Sparky – mine’s falling around laughing when he puts his foot in his mouth (hey it still happens over There).

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Anyone else notice the sneaky guilt by association thing she did there? Feminists are secret Muslims, and we know this because our “religion” has pillars.

Karalora
Karalora
8 years ago

Mine is pointing out how much the media, etc. already control how he thinks about women and letting the little lightbulbs flick on by themselves.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Universal remote. It works on all men within 100 meters, you just have to remember to charge the battery.

ceebarks
ceebarks
8 years ago

I wonder how Bumshine copes when she meets women who’re not conventionally attractive, are happily partnered (I’ll assume a cis-het situation here, ‘cos she’d turn up her nose at any others) and feminist? How does she deal with all the men who’re not imposing their misogyny on the people around them?
I’m guessing she just convinces herself they aren’t really happy. There was a sad article in the Atlantic awhile back, after all. If only they would Take the Red Pill!

kittehserf
8 years ago

My religion has caterpillars.

kittehserf
8 years ago

ceebarks – did you see katz’s pic of the Sad Atlantic Story?

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