Every new bit of news out of Uvalde makes me angrier and more depressed.
I can’t get over the image of do-nothing cops literally standing around for 40 minutes while the shooter rampaged inside a classroom he’d locked himself into. I can’t get over the number of people who shared misinformation and sometimes outright lies about the tragedy — from the 4channers who spread the lie that the shooter was trans to the cops who spent the first day after the shooting spreading blatant falsehoods about what happened in the school in order to cover up their bungled, disastrous, do-nothing handling of the crisis.
I knew it was my job to look and see how the Men’s Rights crowd reacted to the shooting, but when I finally did it was even more jarring than I suspected it would be.
In the first thread that popped up on the Men’s Rights subreddit about the shooting no one expressed sympathy for the children or the teachers killed in the school; no one expressed anger towards a shooter who had deliberately targeted the most vulnerable.
No, they decided to direct their ire at single mothers instead. The thread starter, a Men’s Rights Redditor called majestic_tapir, wondered aloud if commenters on the shooting were
[j]ust going to go ahead and ignore the fact that pretty much every single school shooter in the past however many years has come from a single-gender (female) household though right? We’re gonna blame it on how men are raised, where the people doing the abusive raising in these cases are predominantly women? We’re going to ignore the fact that these boys are always raised without a single positive male influence in their life, but are bombarded with the idea that they are lesser, and lash out?
A quick fact check: It is true that most school shooters — some 75 percent, by one estimate — come from broken homes, many of them headed up by women; it’s not true that “pretty much every single school shooter” was raised only by his mother.
Even if this were true, it would be wrong to assign all or most of the blame on the single mothers while ignoring the role of the often absent father, who may have been the one responsible for the breakup of the relationship in the first place and who often seem uninterested in playing the fatherly role or even paying child support. What little we know about the father of the Uvalde shooter suggests that he was mostly absent from his son’s life; though it doesn’t sound as though he was prevented from seeing his son.
Other Men’s Rights Redditors joined up with majestic_tapir, in scapegoating single mothers.
Who raised all those men, the violent assholes i mean? Who is it that has overwhelming custody of children? Why are the majority of criminals from single mother households?
Nah lets not answer that, doesn’t sit well with our narrative.
Single mothers profit every day from our current misandry … Like any other abusive group, the mothers themselves cannot ever face accountability or objective scrutiny. Instead, the victims of their abuse are contorted into grown, powerful men. Tragic, if only those women had taught empathy and love instead of lifelong obligation/penance.
Aimless-Nomad :suggests that single mothers just don’t know how to raise their sons properly.
This mass propaganda spread by feminists claiming men are useless and women can be both the parents (while leeching child support and welfare) is horseshit as data proves they failed miserably in that regard. …
Fathers doing something as simple as roughhousing their kids is crucial for their development. But women don’t know/care about that do they?
And the government/courts doesn’t give a shit as it gets a piece of every cent of alimony and child support.
There are couple of more reasons for the high rate of shooters but you can bet your ass this is one of the biggest ones.
Men not wrestling with their sons causes mass shootings?
If single mothers are the root cause — or at least a root cause — of school shootings, why don’t the daughters of single mothers shoot up schools? Majestic_tapir has what he thinks is an answer: “girls are bombarded from a young age that they are the future of humanity, and that they are the better gender.”
I don’t think they are.
Alongside single mothers, the MRAs in this particular discussion also want to blame society as a whole for, well, blaming men for things. It’s “[a]lways the case that men are immediately demonised” after a mass shooting “and then no other aspects of it are looked at.” claims Majestic_tapir.
“It’s almost [like] yes, it is a male problem.” writes GivePuppiesBazookas,
because we treat [boys] like shit from the get go and go figure, the more we do it the more they are snapping. There is a reason they are attacking schools for fucks sake, it’s a horrible place for boys now. …
It’s not ironic the people being constantly told they need to be taught this and that, that they suck, that they rape, that they can’t be around children, that they get zero say in something as important as their own child… fucking get REALLY pissed. …
America treats men like shit, blames them for virtually everything, So yeah, there is a reason it’s almost always young men from 16-23ish who shoot up these schools, it’s the original hell for so many boys and young men. It’s not freaking ironic this happens more the more men are blamed and the more it trickles down to young boys.
Do the shooters themselves deserve blame for their actions? No one in the discussion seems to think so — or at least none of them say so. Their attempts to find the “root causes” are not only wrongheaded; they also come very close to absolving the shooters for their crimes.
One commenter makes this point, and is downvoted well below zero for their trouble.
EdgarFriendly3 asks sarcastically
Why blame the criminals for shooting up schools when we should be blaming the mothers of the criminals. Why even lock the shooters up? Why not just lock the moms up since it’s their fault after all.
Alas, that would probably be a popular solution among Men’s Rights Activists.
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