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Scorned: How Pissed is GirlWritesWhat at A Voice for Men’s Paul Elam?

GirlWritesWhat to WoollyBumblebee: This misogynistic hate blog ain't big enough for the both of us.
GirlWritesWhat to TheWoollyBumblebee: This misogynistic hate blog ain’t big enough for the both of us.

Sometimes the subtext is much more interesting than the text. On the surface, blabby FeMRA videoblogger Girl Writes What’s recent 3,635 word blog post on the l’affaire TheWoolyBumblebee is a nasty, brutish, but not-at-all-short attack on her former FeMRA comrade at men’s rights hate site A Voice for Men, recently kicked out of the clubhouse for telling off libertarians and Men Going Their Own Way. (See here and here for more details on it all.)

But if you read a little more carefully you can see signs that Girl Writes What’s anger and frustration may really be directed at AVFM’s founder and grand pooh-bah Paul Elam.

Oh, GWW — real name Karen Straughan — is plenty angry at TheWoolybumblebee — real name Kristina Hansen. Here’s one relatively restrained passage from Straughan’s rambling diatribe, which ironically, with only a few changes in details, could also describe AVFM’s Elam to a T:

WBB seems to thrive on attention (both negative and positive), has very sloppy impulse control, is emotionally unstable …. She takes up causes she thinks will get her admiration (such as the A Voice for Boys site, which she started and quickly abandoned–the URL now redirects to her personal website), and it’s probably at least as much about external validation as anything else. I have watched her repeatedly engage in several of the tactics of abusive women–DARVO (deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender), especially–when people take issue with her attitudes or behavior. Witness the quote-mining she engages in, while simultaneously castigating her opponents for their “intellectual dishonesty” and “lies”.

Oh, but it gets worse, much worse.

[D]espite 10 years of state-subsidized education and four degrees, Kristina Hansen’s accomplishments include 1) following her hind-brain into the weeds to her own self-destruction, 2) being a rabid joiner with little follow-through, as evidenced by A Voice for Boys, 3) whining about people who she claims “do nothing” a month after they handed her $5000, 4) alienating three quarters of the people she claimed she was serving, 5) squeezing out babies, 6) collecting child support and social welfare despite having milked the system for god knows how many degrees between her and her husband, and 7) throwing public temper tantrums because no one appreciates her.

Money well spent, by all measures. Let’s pay people to get educated so we can pay them to sit on their asses and generate more burdens on society. Again, I’m so glad to know I helped pay for those four degrees she’s using to sit in a lawn chair and gestate a fifth fetus with. A fifth child who makes me weep for the future of humanity, because regardless of whether you’re a biological determinist/reductionist or whether you think it’s all environment, you have to admit those are five fucked up kids about to be unleashed on the world.

Yeah, that’s right. She attacked the woman’s children. Classy.

And then Straughan gets all Mean Girls (pretentious antifeminist version) on her:

And whatever your actual motivations, I can tell you what it looks like to outsiders and disinterested parties: it looks like you’re the misfit attacking the popular girl for getting more attention than you. It looks like you’re grinding a man (AVFM) into the dirt because you were scorned by him. You’re living up to every single goddamn negative stereotype of women out there, which is all the more ironic considering your constant NAFALTing to MGTOWs.

You are the female nature that drives feminism, even if you’re not a feminist … .

So what was this I was saying about Straughan’s real rage being directed at Elam? Well, it’s clear from a number of remarks she makes throughout the piece that she’s livid with him for having put Hansen on the masthead in the first place. Not only that, but she feels a certain contempt at him for being so easily won over by the younger woman.

Elam put Hansen on the masthead, she writes,

despite several glaring red flags in videos she’d uploaded to her previous YT channel (TruthandOblivion, which got flagged down), where she used terms like, “you’re the man, you have to be the adult” to a male DV victim, etc. ….

Apparently Paul wasn’t aware of the red flags (he doesn’t even have time to watch all MY videos, pfft :P), or ignored any tingling of his spider senses (or perhaps intentionally ignored the flags because he is constantly juggling multiple priorities). He promoted her (way too early for ANYONE, really, who was so new to the MRM) to senior news director for Canada.

So Elam promoted this fresh new face to Senior News Director for Canada — and somehow can’t  find the time to even watch Girl Writes What’s videos. And Straughan just stewed quietly about it for months, as she makes clear in a part of her post that is ostensibly addressed directly to Hansen, even though it’s clear the real target is Elam:

Kristina, I just want to say, I avoided raising my concerns with Paul primarily because it might have been construed as me being catty–me being one of those women only concerned with monopolizing male attention and being top dogette. Given how quickly he promoted you, I figured he was smitten and would be even more prone to draw that conclusion if a shopworn old bird like me raised concerns. And I wasn’t interested in turning anything into a cat-fight over market share over this movement’s mostly male cheerleaders.

And however much power you seem to think I have over AVFM (given your statements to that effect), and how much practical power I might actually have (given my reach), I choose not to involve myself in the inner workings of AVFM, and always have. Paul has actually made more decisions based on your counsel than on mine, because I would never think to tell someone how to run their own goddamn website. Even when they hire sociopathic, toxic, abusive people like you.

Wow. If she thinks so poorly of Paul Elam’s judgement, why on earth does she stick around?

Will Girl Writes What be the next out the door?

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Kittehserf
9 years ago

Kittehserf could be Senior News Director Across the Veil (and also for knitting).

Accepted! As long as nobody expects me to report on self-generating socks.

leftwingfox
9 years ago

Katz: That reminds me of an old Royal Canadian Air Farce sketch. I finally found it online. (sorta)

The whole album is here, but the mangling editor sketch starts at 6:35

Kittehserf
9 years ago

Also, I bring my own roving reporter.

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
9 years ago

Can I be science reporter/assistant news reporter on knitting (and tatting)?

cloudiah
9 years ago

Ha ha, love it, Kittehs!

Kittehserf
9 years ago

Oooh, I want an assistant reporter!

Say, do cub reporters (knitting division) wear this sort of gear?

Little Blue Dress
9 years ago

These people are imbeciles.

Little Blue Dress
9 years ago

I have always hated GirlWritesWhat videos, and that’s just the small number of them that I could stomach watching. They are long, boring rants comprised of logical fallacies, plus she always kind of gave me the creeps. What’s funny is that she’s actually surprised that people don’t care to watch, and Paul Elam is one of them!

LBT
LBT
9 years ago

Ooh, ooh! I want to be a thing, I want to be a thing! I can make comics? Yes?

Kittehserf
9 years ago

But of course! What *cough* respectable newspaper *cough* doesn’t have a comics section?

Plus we need political cartoons, don’t we? Someone’s gotta do that!

Argenti Aertheri
9 years ago

Head of the comics department and resident superhero?

LBT
LBT
9 years ago

WOO! I’ll take it! Plus I can do a fiction section! It’ll be grand.

(Speaking of fiction, I have sad little orphaned writeathon prompts, if anyone’s interested.)

cloudiah
9 years ago

Yay, LBT is playing! And thanks for the reminder; I just sponsored How Does Your Garden Grow? (I think, if I did it right.) I meant to check earlier, but things are hectic right now…

LBT
LBT
9 years ago

RE: cloudiah

Thanks! It is unfortunately UBER late right now, and I need to haul my carcass to bed, but tomorrow, I shall have the fic up! Hope things get less hectic for you soon.

Argenti Aertheri
9 years ago

OMGS all the Infinity Smashed stuff! I saw the images on your DA but didn’t even know where to look to read it. *squees* (seriously, the characters are interesting and just the snips on DA have me hooked, I may never get through my pile of paper books at this rate!)

amandajane5
amandajane5
9 years ago

Can I please be an assistant something? Ami always left me out, and I know I tend to be late in, but, um, I have a lovely cat and I crochet quite nicely (I’ve never tried the knitting) but I can’t quite apply for knowing things across the veil, and, crochet is very useful if you want to go on planes. They think you want to kill us with those long pointy needles (never happened, yay security!) but I’m a long time manboobzeretta or whatever Meller used to call us. Crocheting assistant to primary knitters?

Dvärghundspossen
9 years ago

I don’t understand in the first place why people make these videos instead of writing text.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
9 years ago

Did you see the video that friend-of-Buntzums posted in lieu of a written response? It was lulzy.

Dvärghundspossen
9 years ago

Nope, didn’t.

Kittehserf
9 years ago

AJ, please join us at the Department of Knitting, Crochet and Assorted Earthside/Veilside Crafts and Newsworthy News! I don’t know if wordsp1nner crochets, but I don’t, and we certainly need an inclusive focus. Plus more kitties.

amandajane5
amandajane5
9 years ago

*mwah* Thanks Kittehs! You joined shortly after we all got cat avatars and yours looks so much like my actual cat (and thus my avatar) that I switched to my favorite picture of Clark (actual cat in question), because I couldn’t tell us apart, though you’re much more prolific than I! I will happily be the court crocheter, and I’m sure to occasionally come across Newsworthy News, right?

Kittehserf
9 years ago

*mwah* back, AJ!

I think I remember when you had your Clark catvatar – I’ve played around with them a few times too, between actual pics of Mads, the cartoons and pics of Mr K. Your Clark’s a lovely looking boy. Is he settled in back with you now, after his year away?

You’ll absolutely come across Newsworthy News. The real question is whether the Furrinati let us post it.

Briznecko
Briznecko
9 years ago

I would like to nominate myself for the position of Fine Arts Correspondent, except during my shift as David. One can only juggle so many important positions.

cloudiah
9 years ago

Oh fabulous, we seem to have plenty of staff at the helm of our fine newspaper now; thanks, all, for stepping up. However, what we don’t have yet is a “green editor” like the one who was apparently to blame for recent events over at AVfM. Is anyone here willing to raise their hand to be our green editor/resident scapegoat?

See Update #3 here: http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/government-tyranny/moral-turpitude-an-open-letter-to-facebook/ for the job description.

(I know I pasted this on the other thread too; I just want to make sure everyone sees it since Dean Esmay clearly wanted to hide the “retraction” away on a old post no one is reading anymore.)

Howard Bannister
9 years ago

Oh, I know the answer to this one.

Pierre.

Because if there’s one thing I know, it’s that the scapegoat “green editor” doesn’t have to be a real person. In fact, it’s cleaner if they aren’t.

I’m pretty sure AVFM is using the word in the sense of “made-up” as well, based on past experience with them. 🙂

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