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Scorned: How Pissed is GirlWritesWhat at A Voice for Men’s Paul Elam?

GirlWritesWhat to WoollyBumblebee: This misogynistic hate blog ain't big enough for the both of us.
GirlWritesWhat to TheWoollyBumblebee: This misogynistic hate blog ain’t big enough for the both of us.

Sometimes the subtext is much more interesting than the text. On the surface, blabby FeMRA videoblogger Girl Writes What’s recent 3,635 word blog post on the l’affaire TheWoolyBumblebee is a nasty, brutish, but not-at-all-short attack on her former FeMRA comrade at men’s rights hate site A Voice for Men, recently kicked out of the clubhouse for telling off libertarians and Men Going Their Own Way. (See here and here for more details on it all.)

But if you read a little more carefully you can see signs that Girl Writes What’s anger and frustration may really be directed at AVFM’s founder and grand pooh-bah Paul Elam.

Oh, GWW — real name Karen Straughan — is plenty angry at TheWoolybumblebee — real name Kristina Hansen. Here’s one relatively restrained passage from Straughan’s rambling diatribe, which ironically, with only a few changes in details, could also describe AVFM’s Elam to a T:

WBB seems to thrive on attention (both negative and positive), has very sloppy impulse control, is emotionally unstable …. She takes up causes she thinks will get her admiration (such as the A Voice for Boys site, which she started and quickly abandoned–the URL now redirects to her personal website), and it’s probably at least as much about external validation as anything else. I have watched her repeatedly engage in several of the tactics of abusive women–DARVO (deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender), especially–when people take issue with her attitudes or behavior. Witness the quote-mining she engages in, while simultaneously castigating her opponents for their “intellectual dishonesty” and “lies”.

Oh, but it gets worse, much worse.

[D]espite 10 years of state-subsidized education and four degrees, Kristina Hansen’s accomplishments include 1) following her hind-brain into the weeds to her own self-destruction, 2) being a rabid joiner with little follow-through, as evidenced by A Voice for Boys, 3) whining about people who she claims “do nothing” a month after they handed her $5000, 4) alienating three quarters of the people she claimed she was serving, 5) squeezing out babies, 6) collecting child support and social welfare despite having milked the system for god knows how many degrees between her and her husband, and 7) throwing public temper tantrums because no one appreciates her.

Money well spent, by all measures. Let’s pay people to get educated so we can pay them to sit on their asses and generate more burdens on society. Again, I’m so glad to know I helped pay for those four degrees she’s using to sit in a lawn chair and gestate a fifth fetus with. A fifth child who makes me weep for the future of humanity, because regardless of whether you’re a biological determinist/reductionist or whether you think it’s all environment, you have to admit those are five fucked up kids about to be unleashed on the world.

Yeah, that’s right. She attacked the woman’s children. Classy.

And then Straughan gets all Mean Girls (pretentious antifeminist version) on her:

And whatever your actual motivations, I can tell you what it looks like to outsiders and disinterested parties: it looks like you’re the misfit attacking the popular girl for getting more attention than you. It looks like you’re grinding a man (AVFM) into the dirt because you were scorned by him. You’re living up to every single goddamn negative stereotype of women out there, which is all the more ironic considering your constant NAFALTing to MGTOWs.

You are the female nature that drives feminism, even if you’re not a feminist … .

So what was this I was saying about Straughan’s real rage being directed at Elam? Well, it’s clear from a number of remarks she makes throughout the piece that she’s livid with him for having put Hansen on the masthead in the first place. Not only that, but she feels a certain contempt at him for being so easily won over by the younger woman.

Elam put Hansen on the masthead, she writes,

despite several glaring red flags in videos she’d uploaded to her previous YT channel (TruthandOblivion, which got flagged down), where she used terms like, “you’re the man, you have to be the adult” to a male DV victim, etc. ….

Apparently Paul wasn’t aware of the red flags (he doesn’t even have time to watch all MY videos, pfft :P), or ignored any tingling of his spider senses (or perhaps intentionally ignored the flags because he is constantly juggling multiple priorities). He promoted her (way too early for ANYONE, really, who was so new to the MRM) to senior news director for Canada.

So Elam promoted this fresh new face to Senior News Director for Canada — and somehow can’t  find the time to even watch Girl Writes What’s videos. And Straughan just stewed quietly about it for months, as she makes clear in a part of her post that is ostensibly addressed directly to Hansen, even though it’s clear the real target is Elam:

Kristina, I just want to say, I avoided raising my concerns with Paul primarily because it might have been construed as me being catty–me being one of those women only concerned with monopolizing male attention and being top dogette. Given how quickly he promoted you, I figured he was smitten and would be even more prone to draw that conclusion if a shopworn old bird like me raised concerns. And I wasn’t interested in turning anything into a cat-fight over market share over this movement’s mostly male cheerleaders.

And however much power you seem to think I have over AVFM (given your statements to that effect), and how much practical power I might actually have (given my reach), I choose not to involve myself in the inner workings of AVFM, and always have. Paul has actually made more decisions based on your counsel than on mine, because I would never think to tell someone how to run their own goddamn website. Even when they hire sociopathic, toxic, abusive people like you.

Wow. If she thinks so poorly of Paul Elam’s judgement, why on earth does she stick around?

Will Girl Writes What be the next out the door?

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j
8 years ago

OH and try to look for the sneering, middle-class condescension in her little goddam essay – she starts shaming the Wooly Bumblebee over the fact that her husband is on disability and then laments that she subsists “on her dime”, the heartless piece of shit. I fucking doubt the FeMRA overlord has worked a day in her life!

Kittehserf
8 years ago

it’s like watching a bad 80′s teen soup opera…

Shot on video and with the same haircuts, probably. 😛

SittieKitty
8 years ago

Your catvatar is so cute.

Thanks =^.^=

… I need popcorn.

Popcorn sounds like a delicious idea right now…

Xanthë
8 years ago

Somegreybloke,

Woah. Wait, these are adults, right?

Judging by their age only, rather than their words.

By the way, I love what I’ve seen so far of Dan Cardamon. Well done. Is he the sort of guy who would get upset by a woman being in front of him in the gelato shop and getting the last scoop of triple choc or tiramisu ice cream?

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
8 years ago

She isn’t coming right out and accusing the bumblebee person of being a spermburgler, but yanno, subtext is for speculating.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

I can never see “spermburglar” without imagining the Hamburglar.

Which is a really gross combination.

opium4themasses
8 years ago

I guess we know why the Hamburglar says “Robble, robble, robble.” then.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

So, wait, she basically said “I didn’t mention my suspicions about you because I was worried that Paul would think I was just jealous of you because you’re prettier than me”? And she thinks this makes Elam/herself/the MRM as a whole look good? LOL!

marinerachel
marinerachel
8 years ago

How embarrassing for grownups to act this way. And could they really not find a more desirable audience to compete for the adoration of?

Viscaria
Viscaria
8 years ago

Just goes to show how precarious her position is, as a woman among misogynists. It doesn’t matter how many times she’s thrown other women under the bus to get the MRM’s “Good Woman” stamp, they would drop her in a second if she were to step out of line, and she obviously recognizes that. If she were a man with exactly the same feelings towards WBB she wouldn’t have hesitated to share them with Elam out of fear that it would make her look catty, because “catty” is not a word that applies to men. Women are catty, men have reasoned opinions.

That’s why feMRAs make me feel kinda sad. They’re fighting so hard to get a seat at the men’s table, but the only seat available to them is the short, rickety one at the very end, which someone might kick and topple them from at any moment; and though they’re allowed to sit there, they don’t get to share the food or drink that the men are passing around, just the table scraps at the end of the day. Sure, it’s better to be getting table scraps than to get nothing but ridicule and spit like other women, but they’ll never get a proper seat at the table, never be treated like equals by the men that they’ve allied themselves with.

Scott Hamilton
Scott Hamilton
8 years ago

Wait wait wait… I think we’re all missing the big story here. AVfM has a senior news director for *Canada*. I don’t think Canada had a senior news editor for Canada until the Rob Ford story broke.

Viscaria
Viscaria
8 years ago

I feel like I’m a great candidate for Senior News Director for Canada – Manboobz.com. I could start right now! BREAKING: A Canadian Manboobzer was given a giant chocolate coin from her coworker this morning, and consumed the entire thing before 8:00. She told this reporter: “I am filled with processed sugar and regret.”

Bagelsan
Bagelsan
8 years ago

She told this reporter: “I am filled with processed sugar and regret.”

You’re filled with chocolate and regret? Those two things can’t coexist!

thebionicmommy
thebionicmommy
8 years ago

That’s why feMRAs make me feel kinda sad. They’re fighting so hard to get a seat at the men’s table, but the only seat available to them is the short, rickety one at the very end, which someone might kick and topple them from at any moment; and though they’re allowed to sit there, they don’t get to share the food or drink that the men are passing around, just the table scraps at the end of the day. Sure, it’s better to be getting table scraps than to get nothing but ridicule and spit like other women, but they’ll never get a proper seat at the table, never be treated like equals by the men that they’ve allied themselves with.

I agree. It really is kind of sad watching the FeMRA’s walking on eggshells around all the men in the MRM. It’s clear that the MRA’s expect the FeMRA’s to always be “ladylike” and defer to them. It’s exactly what the hetero MRA’s expect from a wife or girlfriend, too. Their rules for women are to be meek, be obedient, and never disagree with a man.

And I’m still rolling my eyes about Elam and Agent Orange accusing WBB of using a tone argument against the MGTOW. Because of course her asking them to stop generalizing all women as evil, hypergamous bitches was a tone argument. GWW is quick to reassure the male supremacists that she understands they are all wounded by mean women, and that the best way to heal from their misandric wounds is to vent towards all women.

It’s so ridiculous. I wonder if she actually believes that, or is she just saying the correct words to stay in Elam’s good graces? It’s a toss up to me.

cloudiah
8 years ago

I support Viscaria for Senior News Director for Canada — David, you have to learn how to delegate. Can I be Senior News Director for Kitties and Silly YouTube Videos? I nominate Argenti for Senior News Director for Fish. If we need Senior News Directors for Bras and/or Makeup, perhaps hellkell and CassandraSays could work out some kind of job-sharing arrangement. Kittehserf could be Senior News Director Across the Veil (and also for knitting). katz could be Senior News Director for Various and Sundry Other Matters, Including but not Limited to Popular Culture & Pierre. Falconer, of course, has to be Senior News Director for BABIES.

Okay, who else?

Bronas Salk
Bronas Salk
8 years ago

Wait, she actually writes? I was always wondering why a middle aged woman who yells at a webcam in her kitchen picked the moniker “girlwriteswhat.”

Howard Bannister
8 years ago

I feel that MR SteALe deserves a job. Associate Producer of Socks?

Falconer
Falconer
8 years ago

Aw hell, I haven’t posted photos of my babies in forever.

It’s cause I fired my photography staff. Gonna crowdsource photos of my babies from now on, gonna pay the ‘graphers in exposure. It’s the way of the future.

PARKER! Get out there and get me something I can print on page 42!

cloudiah
8 years ago

Well, pecunium is Director of photography so perhaps we should yell at him for not doing his job. THERE ARE BABIES WHO NEED TO BE PHOTOGRAPHED!!! Howard Bannister can cover the Religion/Atheism desk.

We’re going to need a bigger masthead.

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