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The Door Pattern: Creepiest bit of Pickup Artist BS ever?

The Only Pua you want near your door. Seriously, "Pua" is the name of the anteater.
The Only Pua you want near your door. Seriously, “Pua” is the name of the anteater. Google it if you don’t believe me.

So there’s an old school type of Pickup Artistry called Speed Seduction in which, instead of simply trying to manipulate the ladies into bed, our would-be seducers try to literally hypnotize their prey by repeating prefabricated “patterns” that supposedly work on people’s subconscious minds without them realizing it. The whole thing is based on something called Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), which most scientists seem to think is quackery. Most of the pickup techniques inspired by NLP are beyond ridiculous.

One NLP-inspired PUA “pattern,” for example, involves using the phrase “below me” when talking to the Hot Babes. Since “below me” sounds vaguely like “blow me,” you see, the Hot Babe you’re talking to will be subconsciously primed to want to give you a blow job. And no, I’m not making this up.

The creepiest PUA “pattern” I’ve run across so far is something called the “Door Pattern,” invented by some dude named Alex Domnikov, and recently brought to my attention by Mike Booth, the guy behind the hilarious Some Grey Bloke videos on Youtube.

One PUA has described the Door Pattern as “the “bad boy” of all patterns. … evil and cruel, playing on the fears and deep insecurities of women.”

Essentially, the idea behind this little routine is to manipulate any Hot Babe you’ve somehow convinced to sleep with you into desperately worrying that you’ll abandon her. Why she would consider this a bad thing, I’m not sure, as PUAs are not known for being especially sensitive lovers. But we’ll just suspend our disbelief and continue.

[TRIGGER WARNING for emotional abuse in what follows]

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So how does this dastardly Door Pattern work? Well, after you’ve had sex with a woman, and she’s feeling all glowy, you point to the door and ask her “sweetheart, what’s that over there?”

And she’ll say, “well you know, that’s a door, silly.” And you say, “yeah, you know.. I’m a real positive person, but.. I mean, can you imagine.. I mean, you don’t know what can happen from day to day, when you think about it in your mind. I mean, what would happen if I walked out that door and the door closed and as the door closed, it slammed shut, and no matter what you did, you could not open the door and you knew that you would never be able to look into my eyes again and you’d never be able to hear my voice again and you’d never be able to feel my touch again.” Ok, right here is where she starts going, “I don’t like this door business at all.”

So you reassure her a little, and then it’s back to the “door business” again:

Have some more fun with her, bring her to another orgasm or whatever and say, “you know, a terrible thing happened the other day. My friend was hit by a truck. I mean, it was awful, by the time they got him to hospital he was dead. I can’t believe it, you know? It’s almost as if, it would be a horrible thing you know when you think about..” (point towards the door) “..that no matter even if you were to get that door opened and you were to search, that you could never find me again..” Then she starts freaking out. You calibrate more on that part of, “you will never be able to see me again, you’ll never be able to hear my voice again.”

Repeat as necessary, and pretty soon any time she starts to get uppity, all you have to do is point to a door, and – ta da! – no more “bullshit” from her!

Having anchored that sense of loss and pain to the door, you can trigger it whenever needed. Whatever negative behavior may come up that you want to stop, the first time you just get up and slam the door. Whether you walk out the door depends on the level of bullshit. On later occasions you can just indicate tbe door in some manner. The example Alex gives: If he’s talking on the phone and getting any crap from her, and he knows the relation of where the door is to her desk, he says, “sweetheart, could you please turn right and take a look at what’s over there..” and that was the end of the bullshit.”

Assuming the Hot Babe doesn’t either laugh in your face and/or throw you out the first time you pull this creepy shit with her, what we’ve got here is a template for ongoing emotional abuse.

Happily, one enterprising soul has turned the Door Pattern into an ExtraNormal video. I find that the robot voice in the video meshes well with the psychopathic creepiness of the content.

The Door Pattern is not to be confused with the Doors Pattern, in which you get drunk and babble on about Nietzsche and everyone around you tells you you’re a genius.

There’s a video for that one too:

Oh, and here’s a cat singing the theme song to Game of Thrones. For some reason this popped up on YouTube when I was looking for drunk Jim Morrison videos.

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Some Gal Not Bored at All

And now I have said the word door so much that it seems like nonsense. If I watch the OP’s video again now, I may never be able to use the word again. 🙂

Marie
Marie
9 years ago

@some gal

I guess that makes sense. I guess I was just a little confused by the analogy.

BlackBloc (@XBlackBlocX)

*sorry, blackbloc, don’t know you’re preferred gender pronouns

Heh. I’m the cis-est man that ever cissed. But it’s cool you asked. 🙂

Bagelsan
Bagelsan
9 years ago

Sorry, I didn’t mean to come across as telling BlackBloc what he should have done; I was more weighing in on the general conversation of “how quickly should you blow off someone you have no interest in?” and opting for immediately. I maaay have had too much fun with my metaphor to actually make my point clear. >_> <_<

Bagelsan
Bagelsan
9 years ago

I certainly wasn’t intending to imply any kind of leading on, or judgment of such. If you’re enjoying the interaction by all means, continue it! Even if it ends in no blow jobs*! :p

*this might violate the Geneva Convention

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

That sheep is the cutest ever!

Marie
Marie
9 years ago

@bagelsan

That makes sense. I think I just got a little confused by the analogy XD

BigMomma
9 years ago

I think there are 2 scenarios here…

The first is the one I tend to picture PUAs in, where it’s been a one night stand. In my head, and in my experience, consensual sex with some guy I barely know, is not the basis for being overly worried about doors and who might close them. Hence, when I picture this random dude start that patter, it seems utterly disjointed. I mean, the,whole door pattern bullshit seems to buy into the notion that women don’t do casual sex or that our ladybrains can be overwhelmed by the orgasms that these studly studs will bring about with their Dong of Magic.

The other one, is the one where it’s a relationship where self esteem has been eroded and the PUA has encouraged dependency and isolation. That’s where this shitty stuff works. The relationship may not have been sexual prior to this point but the PUA may well have been abusing the other person anyway.

I want to be really clear that I don’t think that ‘stupid’ people fall for this BS. I’m trying to figure out in my head why it seems so ludicrous on one level.

Either way, they either have delusions of grandeur or are abusers. Probably both.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Dong of Magic would be the best anti-pillow-talk phrase ever. I can just see it having a wilting effect. 😛

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
9 years ago

Trying to restrain the urge to make rock/paper/scissors jokes about how the Dong of Magic automatically loses to the __________ of Concealment.

Argenti Aertheri
9 years ago

Cassandra — Sheath of Concealment, vagina is, more or less, Latin for sheath.

Also, Dong of Magic wouldn’t wilt RP gamers.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
9 years ago

Given the way our trolls like to wave it around I’d say Wand might be the more appropriate word choice.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

“Also, Dong of Magic wouldn’t wilt RP gamers.”

Sounds like they’ve a bad case of not knowing when they’re being laughed at!

anadiomene122
anadiomene122
9 years ago

This is the stupidest shit I’ve… oh why bother…

jimbeamredneckdrunkdrvrwith4wd
jimbeamredneckdrunkdrvrwith4wd
8 years ago

nlp is creepy in itself. most things of natural behavior consciously described start sounding creepy, even if they’re perfectly normal. I believe women naturally love hypnotic language. men too, but women are more sensitive, and SS or whatever works (to the extent it actually does) not because it bypasses a woman’s conscious mind. I believe women are fully conscious and aware when these things are happening, and also during sex. Its men’s minds that go blank. I see women light up when you say these things. They show signs of greater consciousness- and relief- like finally a man knows how to express his feelings! haha. Talking about a door in this way triggers a womans anxiety and abandonment anxiety- and why not! If you’re not planning to leave her, good way to keep her, but why not? surely us men have felt it. But I think lot of pua crap is just that. You gotta earn your love, thru hard work but you also need means. Anyway can be very creepy, esp when it’s learned or talked about versus happening instinctively. migogyny manboobs mocks. haha a real live don quixote, saving the world from the evil misogynists. phh poop, I mock it. it’s so stinky. ugly stinky poop, floating in the toilet, why can’t you smell nice! haha. best to just leave what you dislike alone haha. I don’t mock communists or feminists or idealistist or christists or muhammedists or democratists or pacifists. leave these dreamers alone. But just be what ya are. everybody needs hobbies. ever listen to david allen coe, manboobz?

Xanthë
8 years ago

Word salad, jimbeamredneckdrunkdrvrwith4wd dear, you write it!

Kim
Kim
8 years ago

What is it with MRA/PUAs and their hatred of paragraph breaks?

titianblue
titianblue
8 years ago

very creepy

Yes. You are. Now run along, trollie.

contrapangloss
8 years ago

ever listen to david allen coe, manboobz?

Nope, but I did read some David B. Coe long, long ago, which is why I know about proper capitalization and paragraph breaks. Since David B. Coe might be above your level, I suggest Dr. Seuss’s “Oh, the Places You’ll Go!”

stansclansvan
stansclansvan
5 years ago

on an unrelated note, I googled PUA and got “Potentially Unwanted Applications”. To me this conjures up an image of pick up artist throwing their job applications around and companies sorting their files into the “potentially unwanted applications” pile. Why is this hilarious to me

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