So over on the Men’s Rights subreddit, the regulars are debating a perennial question: Why Is Dating So Hard For Men In The Modern World?
Only a handful of commenters take issue with the premise of the question — that dating is especially hard for (straight) men these days. But most of the commenters have no problem with this notion and are happy to provide their own considered explanations, most of which come down on the “women are too picky” side of the question.
Here’s a sampling of some of their explanations.
I leave it up to you to decide just what it is that makes dating so difficult for these particular guys. (I have my own theory, which I will share with you at the end of this post.)
Nayko214 argues that men have trouble dating women because women are unjustifiably afraid of being raped:
Because women have all the power, refuse to give it up, and then cry sexism when you point this out, constantly falling back on the ‘but but but we could get raped!” even though the vast majority of men don’t and never will rape a woman. Its brutally unfair and when men point this out we’re told ‘life isn’t fair, now excuse us as we promote something to make things more fair to women because that’s IMPORTANT damn it!”
Lice138 thinks it’s because women demand that men be tall doctors with beards and dad bods (?). And also because women are stupid.
Because you must be 6 feet tall, dad bod or rent a boy body (whatever is fashionable right now) , a beard, make 100k as a Rocket Scientist doctor and a feminist with political ideas that match mine even though I do not know enough about politics to hold the opinions I have.
I don;t know, Lice138, maybe the real problem is all those lice. (Also, just FYI. the typical doctor in the US makes twice that.)
Kaputz77 think it’s because women only want “flashy” thngs, and flashy men.
Let’s break this down in simple terms. Women like to shop, women are attracted always to new and flashy things and some women see dating choices as infinite when they first start out after the end of a relationship.
Based on that generalization, many women I have spoken to offer a limited amount of effort early on because they are spoiled for choice. … Because they like new and flashy, the flashy dudes rise to the top. Women looking for an ego boost will be attracted to flashy guy and then end up disappointed when flashy guy bangs them and runs away. Then we gwt the whole “men are trash” phenomenon when in reality women make bad choices based on superficial crap, get burned for it and then lack accountability, shift the blame to a faceless “men” and repeat their mistakes.
Coucoupietre blames men for paying attention to women in the first place, thus turning the ladies into egomaniacs.
We are the man screwing our mankind. Dating applications and Instagram give the woman so much self confidence. Think you are getting 50 friend requests everyday from different women. Then you would not give any value to other women you see on street or work. These stupid cocksuckers even not getting any reply from women, still insist following these bitches and even make them earning huge money from followers.
These bunch of idiots are dropping the value of the man to zero. Waste of space.
Coucoupietre isn’t the only commenter to blame dating apps for inflating the egos of women, causing them to raise their standards higher than they really should because they’re not all that.
According to odd_federal34,
Women have much more options resulting they come after better looking guys or with better status. Average guys are needy, they simp and are always accessible. It’s not so hard for women to hookup with top tier guys but he will probably never settle with that women. Because of that women feel they can always do better. There is a huge awakening for them after 30-35 years old. Foucs on yourself, don’t do porn.
Meanwhile, our old
friend fiend DavidByron2 wins the Godwin Award for this rather gratuitous Nazi reference:
Feminism is a hate movement that’s being actively promoted by the government. It’s like asking was it hard for Jews to date non-Jews in Nazi Germany.
I don’t know about you all, but I’m pretty sure the current dating marketplace is not very much “like asking was it hard for Jews to date non-Jews in Nazi Germany.”
I would suggest, rather, that insofar as Men’s Rights Redditors are having trouble with women it’s because they are pissy manbabies who hate women.
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