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Happy Mother’s Day, the A Voice for Men way. (Note: Much worse than you’d think.)

Over on A Voice for Men, our dear friend Paul Elam has come up with an interesting new way to celebrate Mother’s Day – with what is essentially the longest, least funny, and most rage-filled “Yo Mama” joke ever. (Indeed, it’s so rage-filled I should probably put a Trigger Warning right about here.)

Elam starts off by addressing the mothers of the world, suggesting he’s got a “a socially conscious twist” on the traditional Mother’s Day celebrations. Mothers, he argues, should gather together the flowers they’ve been given by their loved ones and:

Place a bunch of daffodils at a dumpster near you, perhaps one in which one of you, or one of your kind, has tossed an unwanted baby, leaving it there to slowly die alone in a pile of trash.

Perhaps you could lay a single rose at the base of a bridge that has been used by a mother to throw her baby into an icy river. Perhaps you can lay it there with hands that have beaten or shaken a baby to death.

You probably didn’t see that coming, did you? He goes on.

Now perhaps some of you could place large, colorful arrangements at the abortion centers where women go to have children cut out and laid to rest in those colorful and attractive biohazard containers that are all the rage in the clinics. …

Maybe you can lay virtual flowers at your computers to honor all the children that you and your sisters have pimped out to pedophiles, or perhaps the blossoms could be placed in your child’s room, which also doubles as your preferred place to abuse your own.

Oh, but you say you haven’t done any of these things, and that abortion isn’t actually the same as infanticide? No matter. Elam has an answer for that:

This is not a request for some mothers, or a percentage of them, but all of you. In fact, you don’t even have to be a mother. If you have a vagina, the blood of all those children, who are abused far more at the hands of women than men, has stained your skin and caked around the cuticles of your fingers.

If you are a mother, particularly one of the many abusers, or just one that has remained silent as your sisters have beaten, choked, stabbed, burned, drowned, abused, neglected, dumped, tortured and otherwise done the unspeakable to the most defenseless among us, then I hope to see those flowers in your murderous hands, paying homage to those that have been unfortunate enough to be placed in your path. …

In Daffodils for Dumpsters the gash gets you in, and you don’t really have a choice.

You see, Elam has decided that we live in an era of “collective guilt,” and that the evil (straw) feminists who go around blaming all men for the actions of a few – through such dastardly things like rape awareness seminars – deserve to find themselves collectively blamed as well.

Except that Elam’s post goes well beyond an  ill-conceived and ill-intentioned attempt at “turnabout is fair play.” This isn’t a piece of Swiftian satire. He actually believes all this hateful nonsense, and says as much:

Now, do I really mean all this? Yes. It is not that women deserve to be collectively regarded as child abusers and killers. Most aren’t. Most are actually very good to their children and can even be trusted with the children of others. But that truth is not what is important here.

What is important is the children, or the principle, or whatever other bullshit we make up to convince ourselves it is not about demonizing women when that is exactly what we are doing.

I have to confess I have no idea what he’s trying to say in the second paragraph here. Did he mean to say “men” instead of “women?” If so, this is an interesting little slip.

He continues:

The fact is that mothers are more dangerous than fathers where it concerns children. They always have been. It is only a few percentage points in that direction, but of course in a White Ribbon way, it is more than enough to justify pointing a finger at your entire sex and feeling superior as we watch you atone for the unspeakable acts of a minority.

So, suck it up ladies. If you knew about White Ribbon and said nothing to object to it; if in general you have remained silent or actively participated as the image of the male half of the population has been reduced to that of a depraved threat, the step up and get your flowers. You deserve every last petal, stem and thorn.   

I imagine Elam chuckling a bit as he typed that final word.

And a happy Mother’s Day to you, too!

Oh, and if you found yourself wondering about that “White Ribbon” thing, Elam is evidently (as best I can figure it) referring either to the women who, during World War I, handed out white ribbons to men who didn’t enlist in the army. Or he’s referring to this contemporary campaign to fight violence against women. But I don’t live inside Elam’s head, so I’m not sure what he meant, or why he seems to think that all women would know about either campaign, much less have any responsibility for them.

NOTE: Elam is also celebrating Mother’s Day by suggesting I had something to do with creating Reddit’s appalling “beatingwomen” subreddit as part of a nefarious plot to make the Men’s Rights movement look even worse than it manages to do on its own.

You may notice that Elam presents no actual evidence to back up his claims. There is no such evidence, because Elam’s accusations are utterly and completely untrue.

I have nothing whatsoever to do with r/beatingwomen. Nothing. I don’t know anything about who created it, or what their aim was beyond laughing at pictures and videos of violence against women. As I’ve said before, it’s a vile place. I think Reddit should shut it down.

 

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Gametime
10 years ago

The original age of the character in that monologue was 13. It was changed to 16 after (totally justified) criticism.

Eve Ensler has been pretty thoroughly criticized by feminists, especially in recent years; like, the Vagina Monologues is well-intentioned, but it’s RIFE with the most problematic elements of second-wave feminism.

revspinnaker
revspinnaker
10 years ago
Reply to  Gametime

@Gametime:

“The original age of the character in that monologue was 13. It was changed to 16 after (totally justified) criticism.”

I believe that’s when Ensler lost that line about “good rape” too, at the behest of UNICEF contingents at the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child at The Hague, among others.

But since we’re on the topic of female pedophilia, check out this video with Michele Elliott of Kidscape. She received hate mail and was shouted down by feminists when she disclosed her research on the issue. tsk tsk.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Technically we’re NOT on the subject of female pedophilia, it’s just your favorite flavor of derail.

Kindly fuck off.

revspinnaker
revspinnaker
10 years ago
Reply to  hellkell

hellkell: Glad to see you made it through the 11 min. video in 4 minutes. A testament to your open-mindedness.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Do you really think anyone here is in favor of child abuse? I know it’s your pet project, but wanking here is not activism.

pillowinhell
pillowinhell
10 years ago

Um rev..what exactly would it take for you to give up on coming here about child abuse? I don’t think the men or women here are at all in favor of it. Quite the opposite.

jumbofish
10 years ago

Feminists just lovee child abuse! and they cause breast cancer too!

/sarcasm

jumbofish
10 years ago

They also snort nutmeg!

Helen
Helen
10 years ago

Shit, I didn’t know she changed it! OR that there was a line about good rape >.< My mistake.

And now I don't like her very much.

estelle stewart
estelle stewart
9 years ago

My theory is that Elam’s doing this simply for his own sadistic enjoyment. He saw how big the MRM got, and decided to pull one of his many classic troll moves and be all “fuck you” to his own backups. The more I learn about Paul Elam, he seems very “bite the hand that feeds you” and deeply self-destructive in a “oh this is so good, I must destroy it” kind of way.

estelle stewart
estelle stewart
9 years ago

Btw, I’m actually officially stanning for paul elam just because of the major trolling he’s done to feminists and MRAs alike.

marie
marie
9 years ago

Paul has a wife and daughter, doesn’t he? I can’t help but wonder what they think of his involvement in the MRM – or if they even know.

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